sad about detained girlfriend..

[ilostmygf]

Hello, I'm an American in the Yokosuka area here in hopes someone can give me any help with my situation. The Japanese police detained my Filipino girlfriend late last month on account of her overstaying her visa here in Japan. She has been held for 2 weeks now, and i haven't been able to contact her. They arrested her while I was at work and I havent heard from her since. To put it lightly, I am heartbroken and very depressed. We were going out for 2 years and loved each other very much.

I have read that usually detainees aren't held for longer than 30 days, and in the worst case not longer than 60 days. But the end result will probably her being deported back to the Phillipines right? I know she wont be able to stay in Japan and she wont be able to come back for 5 years. I was wondering if anyone has insight and can tell me more about this situation, I have searched on the web already but can't find much except legal mumbojumbo..If anyone has phone numbers or info on how to contact detainees in the Yokosuka area, I would be very thankful..I miss my baby so much. Thank you..

[louvette_15]

im sad about your story. i believe that a detained overstay is allowed to 2 calls to anyone who she wants to inform about her situation. if you have a visa, why didnt she call you? you can also inquire about her through the immigration if you want to visit her.

[ilostmygf]

hi and thanks for your fast response Louvette.
well, I don't technically have a visa, I'm in the US Navy and all I have is my ID. She probably didn't call me because I was at work and there was no signal on my phone...I'm just so sad for her, I hope she is ok and being treated well. Im praying she gets released soon and is ok. I am in the States right now but when I go back to japan at the end of the month i will try my hardest to visit her, but hopefully she will be released by then. if anyone has any other info, it will be greatly welcomed..thanks again...the sad guy...

[la_tina512]

I'm so sorry about your girlfriend. My heart reaches out to you. Having gone this far of asking help from people you don't know means you really love her that much. As for my experience with friends who had overstayed their visas it's a wonder why she hasn't contacted you. They have the freedom to call anyone once they are settled inside the detention cell to let friends or any relations of their whereabouts. The best you can do if you have the time is to go to the nearest police headquarters in your area and inquire. From there they might be of help in tracing your girlfriend. My question is: If she has overstayed her visa, did she use her real name in her passport? You have to know some personal information about her just in case you'll be asked.

I wish you the best from hereon. God bless..

P.S.

I just read your response to louvette_15. I thought you're in Yokosuka.

[pinaygurl]

hi, i know some people who had been detained in japan and their relatives here can visit and talk with to them.. why dont you call the immigration office and ask about your problem i'm pretty sure they can help you..

[louvette_15]

i see. i thought youre here in japan. im sorry im no help to you, but dont worry much, i believe detainees here are well treated. for sure, she will be deported back to philippines. im sure, she will contact you as soon as she can.

[ilostmygf]

tina, thanks for your kind words...means alot to me..and yes I love her very much, we had a serious relationship. I wonder why she never contacted me either, but maybe she was just too ashamed to tell me. She let her other friend know, and that's how I find out...I just found out yesterday...I mailed her friend and she told me what happened. Well, I knew her real name, the one that was on all her bills and everything. I dont think she lied about that. Problem is, she got detained right before I left for vacation in the states, so I can't visit her right now until I go back..I feel helpless...but thanks for all your guys info on this matter..I appreciate it!!

[mOtt_erU]

hi ilostmygf...
i know your in pain, confusion & emptiness right now....bUt for your GF`s sake; please be strong and do everything that you can...maybe she`s waiting for your help & response....
Don`t loose hope...God bless you..!:)

[ilostmygf]

mott_eru, what you described is exactly what im feeling...empty and alone...but I still do have hope, because I know eventually she'll be released and I can visit her wherever she is...What I know right now is that she is probably at the local police station and has only contacted 1 of her friends so far. I'm doing everything in my power that I can right now, but I'm in the United States so I can't do much..you guys have been super helpful and supportive..thanks a ton...!

[summergirl]

Sorry to hear about what happen to your girlfriend.Don't worry too much ,they will just ask your gf.if she's using her real name,when did she arrived here in japan.What airport.etc..And they will send her back to the philippines for 2 weeks.The problem is,Does she have money to buy for her ticket?The only detention center that i knew is in Tokyo...If it will take longer..they will bring her in Ushiku immigration Office..Why don't you share us your Girlfriend name ,maybe somebody will help you to trace where she is detained..Everybody here inthis forum are very willing to help you..Just don't give up ,Keep on praying.!

[ilostmygf]

Just wanted to let you all know that my girlfriend gave me a fake name. The past 2 years, she's been lying to all of her friends and me. A few other forum members and I have tried calling the immigration offices about her and none of the people who work there have heard of the name we gave them. Her friends don't even know her real name. Hell, I don't even know who my girlfriend is...I guess maybe I should try to forget her and put all this behind me. It's traumatic but maybe it's for the best...I thank you all for your help. I feel stupid now. I guess love didn't equal truth to her.

[la_tina512]

Don't feel stupid about yourself. Maybe the only regret you'll have is that you've loved her dearly. We don't know her real intention why even with you she has kept her true identity. Let's leave it as that. As you've told me earlier you've lived and loved each other. Whatever reason she has maybe one of these days she'll call you and will explain everything.

I hope you won't take this one experience against all the Filipinas you'll meet in the near future. There would always be a bad apple in a basket. :)

I wish you all the best. God bless..

[biloglog]

if she didnt lie,the girl has a bright future awaits for her. sinungaling kasi.

[ladylilith]

It sucks you had to go through something like this and be it with a "kababayan" of mine. It is a shameful occurence for the decent and honest Filipinos. I hope this would not leave a negative image of us on you. Be assured that this does not happen all the time to westerners that engage in relationships with Filipinos. I am sorry she lied to you.

[Hensoldt]

Just wanted to let you all know that my girlfriend gave me a fake name. The past 2 years, she's been lying to all of her friends and me. A few other forum members and I have tried calling the immigration offices about her and none of the people who work there have heard of the name we gave them. Her friends don't even know her real name. Hell, I don't even know who my girlfriend is...I guess maybe I should try to forget her and put all this behind me. It's traumatic but maybe it's for the best...I thank you all for your help. I feel stupid now. I guess love didn't equal truth to her.
Dude, you got played.

I guess the only thing left to do is to move on and forget about mystery girl and take it to heart all the lessons learned from this unpleasant experience.
Look in the bright side, since you're back in the mainland, maybe you'll find a girl more deserving of your affection with genuine feelings for you. Good luck, sailor.