i am in love with a girl who is a mistress to a japanese married man.

[foolinlove]

sa title pa lang complicated na noh?! hehehe... anyway here it goes. so i've fallen in love with a girl who is a mistress to a japanese man. oo kabit sya ng isang hapon. she's been a kabit now for about 4 years. the japanese man has no plans to leave his wife and kids and my girl knows this. why then you would ask? the japanese man is kinda like a sugar daddy. he provides her with everything she needs. in the 7 years she's been in tokyo she only worked the first 3 years in an omise before having this arrangement with this man. he gives her a huge monthly allowance (as in grabe), he pays for her super nice condo, gave her a nice car, takes her and her family and friends on trips abroad, buys her expensive gifts, bought her a condo in manila and takes care of her family back sa pinas... (i kinda call it borderline prostitution)

here's my problem. i've asked her until when she was planning to do this and she answered as long as she can... i guess she wants to take advantage of the situation. i don't know what to do with my feelings for her. (btw she is also in love with me) i know that she already has a lot of savings and could easily do business at home but on the other hand she got used to the super high life. she thinks that her savings will not last back in manila. well if she will spend the way she spends in tokyo baka nga hindi talaga magtagal ang ipon nya. hehehe

i knew about her situation and never planned to fall in love with her. but i did. she is really sweet and just by looking at her you would never be able to tell that she was a kabit. i know that she did not come from money back home and i think back when i first met her before she left for tokyo she had alreay some sort of a sugar daddy. she was so young then and already was living in a nice condo in makati and wasn't even working at that time.

the thing i don't understand is why she didn't look for a rich young single japanese man to marry instead?! kaya naman nya kasi super pretty sya and i guess magaling mgbola. super baba ba kaya ang tingin nya sa sarili nya na hangan kabit na lang sya? la ba syang values? and what about her mom bakit pumapayag na ganon na lang ang anak nya?

i am a very religious person and i know that what she is doing is wrong. i pray every night for her to realize it. she used to be religious too but for some reason walked away from God.

deep inside i know that we do not have a future together...

what do u guys think? thanks in advance...

[may_abe]

Wow..siguro mahalin mo lang sya dahil sya ay sya. Malay mo maging kayo..pag marami na syang properties jackpot mo na.Mahirap po mag comment,kase lahat po na nagyayari sa buhay ng tao may kahulugan. ;)

[summergirl]

I think you fell in love to a wrong person.. shes just using that old japanese guy pero until when pag lubog na sya..One day magigising din sya na mali ang ginagawa nya pero ,kailan kaya iyon.?.If the girl really loves you at may ipon naman na sya ,bakit di pa nya hinihiwalayan?Nag-papakasawa siguro muna sa luxious na mayroon sya..Nasasa iyo yun, pero bilib ako sa iyo,alam mo na ang situation nya but your still there to love her..I think you better give her time<Ultimatum>na hindi ka habang buhay mag-hihintay..Then kung ayaw par rin nya..Let her be..Marami kang makikitang higit sa kanya.. Masakit sa una,pero ang true love is just around the corner sa tamang tao,Kahit di mo hanapin pag sa iyo iyo yun..

[v_wrangler]

If she can do it to the man - she can do i t to you as well.

[infinite_trial]

the thing i don't understand is why she didn't look for a rich young single japanese man to marry instead?!

i think this should answer your question. only that you need to apply it to yourself (pero di ko sinabi hanap ka ng lalaki ha hehe).

she's got the guy for the bling bling and she's got you for some lovin

she's some lucky girl e?

[gian_mia]

well for me you better give up her sabi nga nila masakit lang yan sa una but later on mawawala rin maybe she is not the one for you! dont worry god is always have a perpect time for everything kya just keep on praying pra ibigay sau ni lord yung the best girl na para sau diba?!!:) kase pag si lord ang nag plan at ng bigay sure 100% have a nice day and keep on praying god bless you......

[KikoyBalayon]

tama si v_wrangler..
parang pelikula to ah.. :D

[docomo]

tino tolerate mo kase kaya ganun... ganito lang yan kung mahal mo talaga yung girl and malinis talaga ang intentions mo tell her to leave this sugar daddy of her or it's now or never.. you might be surprise baka hindi ikaw ang piliin ..ngayon kung ikaw naman ang piliin then well and good.. that means mahal ka talaga ng girl :)

[aki^-^]

malamang.. di ka pipiliin..dahil kung mahal ka nya... tagal na kayo nagsama....
sorry to say... mukhang wala ng conviction yung girl:( . di na nya alam na mali na sya dahil tinotolerate sya pati pamilya nya:(

[kakkoii_daw]

hello foolinlove,
kung talagang mahal mo sya, ipaglaban mo. tapatan mo ung binibigay ni ojichan sa kanya. :D example, kung binigyan sya ng condo, bigyan mo ng subdivision. :D

may paraan pa naman para mapagbago mo ang isang tao, hindi naman habangbuhay e ganun sya. iparamdam mo lang ang iyong wagas na pagibig... :D

[foolinlove]

tama lahat ng sinasabi nyo.
-true that if she can do it to the guy that there's nothing stopping her from doing it to me.

-for the next 3 years or so she told me that she won't leave this guy.

-i come from a good well off naman family but i can't compete with him. she would choose the guy and her lifestyle now over me in an instant

-dunno pa baka may iba pang mga milagros yan. just don't want to think about it. or maybe just don't want to accept it. may mga iba pa ata syang linoloko for more money on the side.

i need to find myself a nice girl. wawa naman ako!

[foolinlove]

hello foolinlove,
kung talagang mahal mo sya, ipaglaban mo. tapatan mo ung binibigay ni ojichan sa kanya. :D example, kung binigyan sya ng condo, bigyan mo ng subdivision. :D

may paraan pa naman para mapagbago mo ang isang tao, hindi naman habangbuhay e ganun sya. iparamdam mo lang ang iyong wagas na pagibig... :D


bwahahaha! tnx for making me laugh! i needed that.

[infinite_trial]

^ dude marami jan. yung iba nga mababaw lang kaligayahan di mo na kailangan magpakita ng bling bling para patulan ka.

[kawaii5322]

hi! i dont know kung tama po itong advice na sasabihin ko sau. pero sa opinion ko lng po ask urself first " kaya mo bang ibigay lahat ng kayang ibigay sa kanya ng sinasabi mong sugar daddy nya? " sorry for that alam mo maraming babae na practical. kahit minsan mahal nila yung guy they wont settle for it lalo na at wala naman syang magandang future na makukuha.

and sabi mo rin na sanay na sya sa "luxury" maybe thats another reason kung bakit nya ayaw iwan yung guy dahil di sya sure kung kaya mo ibigay yon. segurista lang yung girl na yon and maybe naranasan nya na maghirap before kaya ayaw nya na maulit pa.

about her family maybe di rin nila gusto yung ginagawa ng girl but since nakakatulong sa kanila nag da damatteru lang sila.

if u really love the girl patunayan mo sa kanya na kaya mong pantayan yung nagagawa sa kanya ng sugar daddy nya. at pakita mo na di sya magsisisi kung ikaw ang piliin nya.

i hope makatulong. opinion ko lang po it's still up to u kung sundin mo or hindi.

[docomo]

^ dude marami jan. yung iba nga mababaw lang kaligayahan di mo na kailangan magpakita ng bling bling para patulan ka.

si IT single yan ...agawin mo na nga lang :p

[foolinlove]

malamang.. di ka pipiliin..dahil kung mahal ka nya... tagal na kayo nagsama....
sorry to say... mukhang wala ng conviction yung girl:( . di na nya alam na mali na sya dahil tinotolerate sya pati pamilya nya:(

yeah i think she doesn't know na that what she's doing is wrong. but there was one time when she did tell me that she didn't like what she was doing but needs to do it daw. i don't believe her coz i know of some people who haved saved maybe just a tenth of what she already has and now are doing well in manila.

for some reason she can't stop. para bang isang tao na na adik sa casino.

[infinite_trial]

si IT single yan ...agawin mo na nga lang :p

nyak di ako powdi...maghihirap din sya sakin nyahahaha

[Dax]

Leave her and find a better woman.

That may sound harsh - sorry dude, but you are asking for advice and that is what I can give you.

[proud me]

mag-hanap ka na lang ng iba....sigurado mahihirapan ka lang sa kanya...at marami ka pang magiging problema...dahil sabi mo tinutulungan ang pamilya niya...dyan palang magiging katapat mo na yung pamilya niya...:)

[foolinlove]

hi! i dont know kung tama po itong advice na sasabihin ko sau. pero sa opinion ko lng po ask urself first " kaya mo bang ibigay lahat ng kayang ibigay sa kanya ng sinasabi mong sugar daddy nya? " sorry for that alam mo maraming babae na practical. kahit minsan mahal nila yung guy they wont settle for it lalo na at wala naman syang magandang future na makukuha.

and sabi mo rin na sanay na sya sa "luxury" maybe thats another reason kung bakit nya ayaw iwan yung guy dahil di sya sure kung kaya mo ibigay yon. segurista lang yung girl na yon and maybe naranasan nya na maghirap before kaya ayaw nya na maulit pa.

about her family maybe di rin nila gusto yung ginagawa ng girl but since nakakatulong sa kanila nag da damatteru lang sila.

if u really love the girl patunayan mo sa kanya na kaya mong pantayan yung nagagawa sa kanya ng sugar daddy nya. at pakita mo na di sya magsisisi kung ikaw ang piliin nya.

i hope makatulong. opinion ko lang po it's still up to u kung sundin mo or hindi.

as i mentioned earlier "i can't compete with that guy". i come from a well off family naman. studied and lived abroad most of my life. recently came back home to find myself a nice wife. i live in a nice condo in a nice area. kapit bahay namin dati si erap sa greenhills. but still what she's getting from this guy is just crazy! she's now become very materialistic. i think that's why she can't leave this guy. the sad thing is that hindi sya practical when it comes to money. instead na expensive clothing and branded bags she should ask the guy to buy her jewelry coz it's a better investment.

[kakkoii_daw]

hello ulet foolinlove,
its a kind of challenge for you instead of just leaving her alone in that misery. you just have to guide her and show her the light. hindi man sya mapasaiyo, atleast you've shown her a perspective different from what she have right now. :D

[Tarena314]

Kung ako ay ikaw ay iiwanan ko na sya at maghahanap ako ng iba ...,mahirap pagtiwalaan ang ganyang babae.....,:(

[v_wrangler]

mahirap magmahal ng syota ng iba...

[halloween]

You’ve said it all. The girl is materialistic, not practical and the bilmoko type..
If you can put up with a character like that then pursue her, if not look for another girl.
I know its not as simple as it may sound but that’s how it is. Your inclination toward getting too attached to her puts you at risk. As v wrangler said, she did it to the old guy, chances are, she’d do it to you too.

Does she really love you? Well, if she does, then she’d choose you. But then, ending the affair would mean backing out from that cozy lifestyle that she now enjoys.

Bro, at the end of the day, it’s about making the right choices. Taga bigay lang kami ng opinion dito, the rest is up to you.

May enlightenment be with you. :p

[kawaii5322]

you cant compete with the guy? then just leave her alone. madaming babae dyan im sure makakahanap ka din ng someone for you. pakita mo sa kanya na u can survive without her. move on wag mo sayangin buhay mo. if u want syokai kita sa mga cousins ko dami puro magaganda hehehe.

serious speaking look for another girl na lang na can love you for what u are.madami naman dyan. let her go na lang ok.

[hacaya]

Leave her and find a better woman.

That may sound harsh - sorry dude, but you are asking for advice and that is what I can give you.

ako rin po lang masasabi ko...
LECHENG PAG-IBIG YAN!!!peace:D

[diana_james]

ako available na double. halika dito. hehehe
fish!:D

[disney]

sanay na sya sa magarbong lifestyle nya kaya di nya kaya iwanan si sugar daddy, mas mahihirapan sya mawalan ng kayaman kaysa mawalan ng lalake :p opinion ko lang po

[foolinlove]

ako available na double. halika dito. hehehe
fish!:D


sayang i just got back home from tokyo last monday was there for 3 weeks. miss ko na nga ang shibuya eh... sana nag meet tayo. was looking for ka-gimik whenever she was out with her lolo! hehehe ;)

BTW tnx to all those who replied. deep inside i know naman talaga na there's no hope with our situation... hard lang to accept!

[mamimo]

You dont like what she`s doing, you cant change her then leave her!

[skyteam]

sa title pa lang complicated na noh?! hehehe... anyway here it goes. so i've fallen in love with a girl who is a mistress to a japanese man. oo kabit sya ng isang hapon. she's been a kabit now for about 4 years. the japanese man has no plans to leave his wife and kids and my girl knows this. why then you would ask? the japanese man is kinda like a sugar daddy. he provides her with everything she needs. in the 7 years she's been in tokyo she only worked the first 3 years in an omise before having this arrangement with this man. he gives her a huge monthly allowance (as in grabe), he pays for her super nice condo, gave her a nice car, takes her and her family and friends on trips abroad, buys her expensive gifts, bought her a condo in manila and takes care of her family back sa pinas... (i kinda call it borderline prostitution)

here's my problem. i've asked her until when she was planning to do this and she answered as long as she can... i guess she wants to take advantage of the situation. i don't know what to do with my feelings for her. (btw she is also in love with me) i know that she already has a lot of savings and could easily do business at home but on the other hand she got used to the super high life. she thinks that her savings will not last back in manila. well if she will spend the way she spends in tokyo baka nga hindi talaga magtagal ang ipon nya. hehehe

i knew about her situation and never planned to fall in love with her. but i did. she is really sweet and just by looking at her you would never be able to tell that she was a kabit. i know that she did not come from money back home and i think back when i first met her before she left for tokyo she had alreay some sort of a sugar daddy. she was so young then and already was living in a nice condo in makati and wasn't even working at that time.

the thing i don't understand is why she didn't look for a rich young single japanese man to marry instead?! kaya naman nya kasi super pretty sya and i guess magaling mgbola. super baba ba kaya ang tingin nya sa sarili nya na hangan kabit na lang sya? la ba syang values? and what about her mom bakit pumapayag na ganon na lang ang anak nya?

i am a very religious person and i know that what she is doing is wrong. i pray every night for her to realize it. she used to be religious too but for some reason walked away from God.

deep inside i know that we do not have a future together...

what do u guys think? thanks in advance...

sayang sana kasama ka sa EB sa pinas para makapagkwentuhan tayo ng matagal

[sharpener]

wow! dami datung ang lolo ha
di kaya yakuza yan?
ingat ka kadidikit kay girl
baka bigla kang mag disappear sa earth

naalala ko tuloy story ni maricris sioson...sumalangit nawa

ops! payo nga pala...
kung kukuha ka ng girl, na magiging ina ng mga magiging anak mo
see to it na may ituturong magaling sa mga anak mo