Long-distance love affair, does it work?

[mcgregor]

a penny for your thought :)

[bianca marie]

a penny for your thought :)


It does'nt work for me coz i got here 6 months he started dating already, my classmate from college told me they saw him with some girl holding hands, and told me to start looking for a new BF. No matter how much you loved each other being apart is very, very hard. It's not the same na puwede mo siyang hingahan ng bad days mo, give you a kiss or a hug just to make you happy.

[thermometer]

a penny for your thought :)
yes..it works but it is hard to maintain..

[midnight]

i think it would work for a while pero in the end magkakasawaan kayo na puro phone calls lang or emailing/texting... i experienced that already & it's painful kasi we really love each other & napakarami naming woderful times together.pero nauwi din sa break up.One year mahigit din kami na tawagan,email,exchan ging gifts,cards/letters etc... He came to visit me pa pero wala din.
Ang maganda lang until now we are still friends. He'll always be special no matter what. goodluck na lang to your rel. & sana di magtagal ang ganyang situation nyo.

[Stacie Fil]

yes..it works but it is hard to maintain..

Its true its not easy, and it all depends on the people involve. There are people who are weak, others are focus on each others protecting the relationship.It intails lots of patience, sacrifice and fidelity. From the thousands of OFW around the world, you'll encounter various stories on the same matter,"long distance love affair". There are those who had succeed and there are also others who are not that lucky to maintain the relationship.

[infinite_trial]

:cry:

i'm currently in an LDR. it's really hard. sometimes it can be so depressin. andun pa yung strengthenin the trust, keepin the faith and flames burnin. *sigh* dunno if it will work but hopin so.

[fisher]

Oh yes! It does work if and if and again if you are both strong enough to hold on to your love and promises!:)

[mcgregor]

i think it would work for a while pero in the end magkakasawaan kayo na puro phone calls lang or emailing/texting...

...pero nauwi din sa break up.One year mahigit din kami na tawagan,email,exchan ging gifts,cards/letters etc... He came to visit me pa pero wala din.


talaga? sorry to hear that. katakot naman. i guess it does entail a lot of patience from both parties talaga no? kalungkot lang kung masyadong 'bata' pa ang relasyon, nasusubok na kaagad.

hay...

[mcgregor]

Oh yes! It does work if and if and again if you are both strong enough to hold on to your love and promises!:)

that's a big IF talaga!

hay ulit...

[midnight]

oo grabe talaga ang lungkot ko nong maging LD ang relationship namin kasi before mangyari yon, everyday magkasama kami for about 2 yrs. din. araw araw yan para na kaming magasawa at pati sa work kasama pa rin kami.Ang dami naming adventures & happy memories.We spent a lot of vacation together sa ibat ibang lugar din.tapos kailangan umuwi na sya sa country nya na across the miles talaga ang layo sa akin,dun na nagstart ang LDR namin.kakalungkot kasi di na ako nasanay na wala sya non,everyday umiiyak ako kasi i missed him a lot pero nagmake way pa rin sya para bisitahin ako kahit napakalayo pa ng pinanggalingan nya,magastos dahil pamasahe pa lang super mahal na at effort din.Ilang beses din yon pero nauwi rin kami sa pagiging magkaibigan.Masyadon g complicated ang situations.Nagbreak kami kahit we still love each other a lot. kaya up to now we still communicate,keeping in touch...
I know how you feel sa mga ganito ang situation.Just hold on to each other & if possible don't give up.If you feel that you really love this person fight for your love & kung ganon din naman sya sa yo then maybe make an action to resolve your situation.

[docomo]

ayokong maalala... ayaw... ayaw .... sinabi ng ayaw kong maalala eh ... waaaah:cry:

[mikoboy78]

i think it would work for a while pero in the end magkakasawaan kayo na puro phone calls lang or emailing/texting... i experienced that already & it's painful kasi we really love each other & napakarami naming woderful times together.pero nauwi din sa break up.One year mahigit din kami na tawagan,email,exchan ging gifts,cards/letters etc... He came to visit me pa pero wala din.

very well said...

ako nga eh 5 months pa lng eh we already call it quit... it is very hard to maintain...:(

[Little Johnny]

ayokong maalala... ayaw... ayaw .... sinabi ng ayaw kong maalala eh ... waaaah:cry:

bakit naman doc? share mo na please, so that others may learn also.:)

mahirap nga i-maintain ang LDR. if you're both used to always being together then all of a sudden you're thousands of miles apart, that's a heartbreaker indeed! but it is not impossible at all, you just need to change the recipe and the taste will be just as good. large doses of communication, understanding, sacrifice, patience and trust (not the one on your mind, naughty!) should be added. just hold on to love for one another ang things will turn out fine.;)

[docomo]

bakit naman doc? share mo na please, so that others may learn also.:)

mahirap nga i-maintain ang LDR. if you're both used to always being together then all of a sudden you're thousands of miles apart, that's a heartbreaker indeed! but it is not impossible at all, you just need to change the recipe and the taste will be just as good. large doses of communication, understanding, sacrifice, patience and trust (not the one on your mind, naughty!) should be added. just hold on to love for one another ang things will turn out fine.;)

Just hold on to love for one another and things will turn out fine???... hindi rin... :p ( sa akin lang yan ha) basta!

[Little Johnny]

Just hold on to love for one another and things will turn out fine???... hindi rin... :p ( sa akin lang yan ha) basta!

I'm just being optimistic here. I don't want others to lose hope when dealt with this kind of situation, especially in pinas where so many people go out of the country to work.

I admit it is difficult, I had my own similar experience myself. It's extremely frightening especially when insecurity and paranoia kicks in. But that should not stop us to believe in the magic of love. ;)

[docomo]

bakit naman doc? share mo na please, so that others may learn also.:)
;)


Here...

Whenever I'm able to hear myself ... I realized I'm unhappy.. And somebody told me that I should not apologize for how I feel.. So there, I said it... Sometimes I wish I don't have needs. Sometimes I wish love is as simple as finding the person great..because that's how the person is.., a "wonderful" person.... and sometimes I hope that's all it would take for me to see that :)

[DJchot]

nakapag conclude na ako na it won't work dahil sa tatlong friends ko na ang di nagkatuluyan dahil nagmigrate ang isa. kung magbe-baby muna bago umalis, baka may chance pa.

[Dax]

depende yan sa:
1. persons involved
how strong the relationship is and how faithful they are to each other.
2. distance
kung pinas-japan kalayo at most na siguro ang twice magkita a year.
mahirap pa din kumuha ng leave considering the japanese working habits.
3. how often they see each other
kung hokkaido-tokyo kalayo magastos din based on experience. kahit may
skymate (1/2 plane fare) pa ako noon. :D

may kaibigan ako LDR for 6 or 7 years pero nagkatuluyan
at masaya pa din ngayon w/ a baby. :)
nagkikita sila noon mga 2 to 3 times a year.

conclusion:
walang general sagot na "it won't work" or "it will work". how about those
couples who have been together for years and see each other very often
(if not living together) but still didn't make it? may classmates ako simula
pang 3rd year hs ata sila na, pero after 8 or 9 years naghiwalay. :(

[infinite_trial]

wow kainggit naman yun! hehe magbaby na din kaya para may souvenir man lang.

[DJchot]

@dax,

yung tatlong friends ko na minention ko na di nagwork, walang kita-kita yon. talagang cards, email at tawagan lang. after a year, bumigay. yung isa, umabot naman ng 2yrs.

yung kaibigan mo naman kasi, nagkikita pa rin naman pala 2 or 3 times a year. may pagasa talaga yan. actually, mas maganda pa nga yung situation nila compare sa mga OFW na umuuwi lang once a year e.

[DJchot]

wow kainggit naman yun! hehe magbaby na din kaya para may souvenir man lang.

yebah! :)

[mcgregor]

...Nagbreak kami kahit we still love each other a lot. kaya up to now we still communicate,keeping in touch...


hay...
ito ba 'yung "if you love someone, set him/her free?"

[houseboy]

LDR? It takes a pinch of hope, a dash of communication, a spoonful of love and a whole lotta TRUST.;)



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Trust me.... it won't work. Hehehehehe.......... ........:eek:

[midnight]

nakapag conclude na ako na it won't work dahil sa tatlong friends ko na ang di nagkatuluyan dahil nagmigrate ang isa. kung magbe-baby muna bago umalis, baka may chance pa.

yeah i agree to that na kung may anak kayo or kasal na kayo bago mag long distance baka may chance na di mauwi sa wala ang relasyon nyo.

[midnight]

hay...
ito ba 'yung "if you love someone, set him/her free?"

Siguro nga. I even used that line to him & it made him cry.:weep:

[striver]

wow kainggit naman yun! hehe magbaby na din kaya para may souvenir man lang.

he he he. naalala ko tuloy iyong classmate ko nong highschool na nanghihingi sa kin ng souvenir po. sabi ko gusto mo anak na lang kaya para lalong di mo ko makalimutan. he he he.

[noycoco]

bakit namankasi kailangang magkalayo pa?????pwede naman kasing magkasama....ayoko ding maalala ang hirap.....pero sana bago maging tapos ang lahat ay makagawa sila ng paraan para magsama muli.walang imposible.....basta walang bibitaw.....

[infinite_trial]

he he he. naalala ko tuloy iyong classmate ko nong highschool na nanghihingi sa kin ng souvenir po. sabi ko gusto mo anak na lang kaya para lalong di mo ko makalimutan. he he he.
at least bibigyan mo sya tlg hehe. ako kailangan ko pa yata magbutas ng condom para lang magkasouvenir :D.

[fisher]

that's a big IF talaga!

hay ulit...
mcgregor, hold on tight! You will reap a good harvest he,he,he,he,he:D .

[ning2]

a penny for your thought :)

siguro depende rin,,kasi sa case ng pinsan ko(nasa ibang bansa yung pinsan ko), magboyfriend sila ng almost 10 yrs.
saka palang nila naisipan magpakasal sa huwes muna then after a year yata ay sa church naman sila nagpakasal at ngayon ay may baby na sila. kaya sa case nya kung talagang para kayo sa isa't-isa kahit anong layo ng distance nyo kayo pa rin. na i-share ko lang po:)

[Ayara]

Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By having the challenge of a long distance relationship, you also accepted the fact that you will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised.:sweeties: With the right amount of effort and interest on both parts, a long distance relationship can survive the obstacles it will frequently be challenged with. ;)

[DJchot]

kung 1 year or less lang mawawala, ok lang ang LDR e. mapagtitiisan. pero, kung magmi-migrate na or talagang nasa kabilang lupalop talaga nakatira, mahirap talaga i-maintain ang relationship na yan. may matatawag kang boyfriend/girlfriend pero nasaan sya pag may gatherings? pag may magandang movie? pag umuulan? pag masama ang loob? pag giniginaw sa gabi? meaningless di ba? :(

[mcgregor]

kung 1 year or less lang mawawala, ok lang ang LDR e. mapagtitiisan. pero, kung magmi-migrate na or talagang nasa kabilang lupalop talaga nakatira, mahirap talaga i-maintain ang relationship na yan. may matatawag kang boyfriend/girlfriend pero nasaan sya pag may gatherings? pag may magandang movie? pag umuulan? pag masama ang loob? pag giniginaw sa gabi? meaningless di ba? :(

:weep:

[docomo]

.. minsan nga yung ngang kasama mo na eh parang di mo kasama ... nandyan nga pero di mo maramdamang nandyan .. LDR pa :p

[infeliz]

In my case it didn't work:( Too bad he's the only Bf that I had...but as the saying goes: "If you love him/her....If he comes back he/she is yours"

[Little Johnny]

.. minsan nga yung ngang kasama mo na eh parang di mo kasama ... nandyan nga pero di mo maramdamang nandyan .. LDR pa :p

nde naman masama ang loob mo nyan pareng docomo??? hehehe:D :p

[Stacie Fil]

a penny for your thought :)


Just a thought, a penny as you wish,he,he,he.

Separation is difficult enough, but since its inevitable, perhaps both party can try to make it more challenging. What do I mean? Make a aggreement/commitment. Since separated, both should be strict in reporting either by mail,calls,IM or whatever means on a regular basis. Specially a time(same) to offer a prayer of care and protection for the other party. i.e, 3min prayer every 11pm or before sleeping for one week. Then make it 2,3..4weeks and so on.

You should agree that the separation should be used delegently to prepare yourself for future,materially,ph ysically,emotionally ,spiritually.

Complement and assure each other that there are no hanky pankies around. Prepare each mind that in reality many others surpass your partners quality, but then if you really are for each other...there's only one and no other love at all. Case close... No other fantacies or second look to other.

Mahigpit ba masyado? Just a thought...

[taki]

generally, it doesn't work. sweethearts who's been together in the same place do encounter several complications in a relationship and have difficulties in building trust to each other how much more if they are far apart. i believe in soulmates. if both person are really meant for each other, then no matter where fate leads them far apart, fate will bring them close together again to the right place at a right time.

[JLO]

never and it wont work

some guys/gals dont end up with their partners lalo na kung
malayo sa isat isa... one of them will tend to loose grip of their
relationship.... naghahanap ng ibang kapiling...:eek: :rolleyes:

[mbstorun]

:thumb: it works for me~~~kita mo naman ang layo namin ng asawa ko nun~~after 5 yrs of long distance love affair (Japan sya~~Middle east naman ako ) eto nah~~~nagkatuluyan nga kami!:p (e-mails, chat, phone calls & seeing each other once a year lang).:p

[vectra1123]

Sorry wala akong maisasagot dyan kasi wala pa akong expirience dyan e! Higpit kasi ng lola ko sa pagbabantay sa akin. Tutoo nga nyan ni first kiss wala pa ako!Naghahanap nga kahit ako nalang ang manligaw wala naman magkamali, kaya nga dito sa tf baka sakali mapansin ang beauty ko!!:gossip:

[mbstorun]

Sorry wala akong maisasagot dyan kasi wala pa akong expirience dyan e! Higpit kasi ng lola ko sa pagbabantay sa akin. Tutoo nga nyan ni first kiss wala pa ako!Naghahanap nga kahit ako nalang ang manligaw wala naman magkamali, kaya nga dito sa tf baka sakali mapansin ang beauty ko!!:gossip:




whoah~~!!!! i think goodboy is available!:confused: peace!:p

@goodboy...tama ba ako???:p

[vectra1123]

whoah~~!!!! i think goodboy is available!:confused: peace!:p

@goodboy...tama ba ako???:p Who is Goodboy ? cute ba sya? baka sya yung nagtatapon ng gomi ng wala sa sched.:dowave: Joke!!!!

[mbstorun]

Who is Goodboy ? cute ba sya? baka sya yung nagtatapon ng gomi ng wala sa sched.:dowave: Joke!!!!

goodboy~~~sya ang "PM KING" ng TF! hahahhah makikilala mo sya..teka~~bat kaya wala sya ngayun~~:eek: :p


@goodboy~~~!!!!!!! malapit ka na ma~sold out dito asan ka ba nagpupunta?? (ginawa mo kase akong broker)! :confused: PEACE!:p

[vectra1123]

goodboy~~~sya ang "PM KING" ng TF! hahahhah makikilala mo sya..teka~~bat kaya wala sya ngayun~~:eek: :p


@goodboy~~~!!!!!!! malapit ka na ma~sold out dito asan ka ba nagpupunta?? (ginawa mo kase akong broker)! :confused: PEACE!:p Ayoko ng PM gusto ko date kaagad!!HE!HE!!:toas t:

[mbstorun]

Ayoko ng PM gusto ko date kaagad!!HE!HE!!:toas t:

am sure~~madaling kausap yun!:p

[dcat]

Sorry wala akong maisasagot dyan kasi wala pa akong expirience dyan e! Higpit kasi ng lola ko sa pagbabantay sa akin. Tutoo nga nyan ni first kiss wala pa ako!Naghahanap nga kahit ako nalang ang manligaw wala naman magkamali, kaya nga dito sa tf baka sakali mapansin ang beauty ko!!:gossip:


Nangyari na sa akin yan, at kahit na anong gawin kong pagsusumikap, hindi talaga nakayanan. In this kind of relationship, kailangan both parties are willing to sacrifice. ;)


Hi Vectra1123!
pansin na pansin ko ang beauty mo:D

[bell]

Sorry wala akong maisasagot dyan kasi wala pa akong expirience dyan e! Higpit kasi ng lola ko sa pagbabantay sa akin. Tutoo nga nyan ni first kiss wala pa ako!Naghahanap nga kahit ako nalang ang manligaw wala naman magkamali, kaya nga dito sa tf baka sakali mapansin ang beauty ko!!:gossip:

wag ka mag-alala vectra makakahanap ka rin ng katapat mo...;)darating ka rin don.malay mo makahanap ka dito ng kaloveteam mo...:Dpara sa kapogihan mo..:rolleyes:

[maimai]

goodboy~~~sya ang "PM KING" ng TF! hahahhah makikilala mo sya..teka~~bat kaya wala sya ngayun~~:eek: :p


@goodboy~~~!!!!!!! malapit ka na ma~sold out dito asan ka ba nagpupunta?? (ginawa mo kase akong broker)! :confused: PEACE!:p


naku prend..binuking mo naman si goodboy nyan...~~~~~~^hehehe he:D :p ...nasira tuloy ang image nya!hehehehe:D...bak a busy sa pagpiPM ng iba dyan~~~kaya wala sya dito hehehe:D

[Hungry eyes]

Hindi ng worked ang LDR ko..2 years lang..(Lang)..hindi naman sa nawala na yun love..pareho na lang kaming nag give up..ayaw nya dito kasi he has a business to attend to sa bansa nila..hindi rin ako pwede sa bansa nya..ayaw sumama ng dalawang bruha ko..iwan ko na lang daw sila..pwede ba yun...:confused:..ah h so hard to mend a broken heart...somebody help:D..parang gusto kong matulog nang walang gisingan...para wala ng sakit...;)

[chubby_kulot]

its depend upon the situation and the feelings of the both concerned to the long distance relationship...for me...its works...basta nandon un tiwala at communication ng bawat isa..bakit hindi mag woworks..lalo na kung destiny nyo pala diba:D

[ladygems1216]

Long distance relationship is hard to maintain.. but as what chubby kulot says it depends upon the couple kung paano nila mame-maintain yung relationship kahit malayo sila sa isa't-isa. If trust and love is there, i think it will work..

[infeliz]

I totally agree;) As long as you love and trust the person plus communication...it will work out:)

[Ariana]

i doubt, pero yung iba, mukhang kaya naman nila ang ganung set up

but for me, sa experience ko, the guy, hndi nakaiwas sa temptation, eh medyo m_l_n_di din ng konti ung girl kaya hndi makaiwas ang ex ko. Ang nangyari, pinagsabay nya kami kasi daw nalulungkot sya dahil malayo daw me sa kanya.

Guys talaga.... tsk tsk tsk

[maytatsu]

ldr kami ni hub for 1 yr ang tagal noh! hahaha anyways it worked for us kasi pinilit naming maging kami talaga, ika nga it takes 2 to tango diba? kung ikaw lang lagi tawag,txt,email at isali mo na rin yung pagbisita parang malabo. if theres a wheel theres a way o dalawa ang sayings ko dito hehe kahit gaano pa kayo ka bz sa isat isa you will really find ways and means to comunicate it`ll work kasi naman yung lang pwedes ninyong magawa habang ldr.:cool:

[eastern]

harangan man kayo ng sibat, kung kayo talaga, kayo talaga! walang imposible sa dalawang taong TUNAY na nagmamahalan! ;) di ba? kahit na ilang milyong beses kayong mag-away, bati, away, bati, tampo dito tampo doon, deadmahan sa e-mail, sa phone calls, at the end of the day, SIYA at SIYA pa rin ang hinahanap mo di ba? :) lalo na kung super kilala mo na ang ugali nya o ugali ng isa't-isa, after ng away, happy na naman kayong nag-uusap! haaaaay yun nga lang hindi mo ma-embrace pag super miss na miss mo na di ba? tsk, kainis, nalungkot tuloy ako bigla!:D

[Autumn]

kahit siguro millions miles away pa kayo.kung kayo kayo pa rin..sa akin hindi nag work ang LDR..........ok lang happy naman ako ngayon..;)

[ANGST]

You know, everything can work even this kind of relationship. Important thing is LOVE, TRUST, LOYALTYand EFFORT. If both of you have this, then 100% you'll overcome the situation.

[ANGST]

Hello pipz!
Just signed-up.
Mukhang maganda dito.
By the way I'm Darwin, can call me Dharr for short.
I hope makahanap me ng new friends dito.
Just e-mail me at d.ibanez@sdmi.shi.co .jp or dito na rin sa TF.
Hope to hear from all of you soon.
Thanks!

[brownman]

LDR? It takes a pinch of hope, a dash of communication, a spoonful of love and a whole lotta TRUST.;)



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Trust me.... it won't work. Hehehehehe.......... ........:eek:

galing ng recipe mo houseboy! i agree. pero i think it depends on the couple din. me mga kilala ako na hindi nag work out. meron ding nagkatuluyan sila. i just hope mine works out. sana magkawork na ako para masama ko na gf ko dito!:rolleyes:

[mahalkita]

No. It doesnt work. Yung ngang kasama mo na araw araw magagawa pang tumingin sa iba, yun pa kayang nasa malayo.

[Jyumarujho]

Waaaaa...ang layo mo bhebe!!! timogs members how much do you believe in long distance love? Siguro halos lahat ng members dito merong ganitong sitwasyon...
im like 4yrs na dito sa japan sa totoo lang ilang beses na rin nakapag "LDR" ung una kung alis sa pinas na may iniwan its like 8months hindi nakatiis si love, tapos nainlove ako dito sa japan after 6months umamin na may asawa pala sya sa pinas, pero inabot pa rin kami ng over 1yr! talaga naman ohh lol....,,, sumunod nag gf ako agad uli dito sa jp,kailangan ko naman umuwi sa pinas "LDR" Uli...!!! 1 yr din nakabalik ako dito sa japan 1 lang night pa lang ko dito saka nya sinabi na meron ng iba..,!!! ouch... <parang gusto ko nang umuwi ulit> <pero sayang pamasahe mga 6na lapad> pero nag gf din kasi ako sa pinas kaya lang pumunta na naman ng Qatar si bhebe "LDR" din!!! sa ngayon meron nanaman uli dito sa japan pero gpin "LDR" din... ahh pauwi ng pinas hindi alam kung kelan makakabalik! hay naku talaga naman oh narealize ko lang na tayong mga nag aabroad madalas pinoproblema dahil may "LDR" mahirap man tangapin o isipin na kung minsan talagang hindi makatiis ang partner, dami ko rin nakilala dito sa japan na nag hanap na ng iba at niloloko ang nasa malayo , pero paano ba natin talaga dapat harapin ang "LDR" gaano kayo naniniwala dito ? Pls tell some EXP and comments

asl.... 22 Male Tokyo lol

[geminigirl]

Waaaaa...ang layo mo bhebe!!! timogs members how much do you believe in long distance love? Siguro halos lahat ng members dito merong ganitong sitwasyon...
im like 4yrs na dito sa japan sa totoo lang ilang beses na rin nakapag "LDR" ung una kung alis sa pinas na may iniwan its like 8months hindi nakatiis si love, tapos nainlove ako dito sa japan after 6months umamin na may asawa pala sya sa pinas, pero inabot pa rin kami ng over 1yr! talaga naman ohh lol....,,, sumunod nag gf ako agad uli dito sa jp,kailangan ko naman umuwi sa pinas "LDR" Uli...!!! 1 yr din nakabalik ako dito sa japan 1 lang night pa lang ko dito saka nya sinabi na meron ng iba..,!!! ouch... <parang gusto ko nang umuwi ulit> <pero sayang pamasahe mga 6na lapad> pero nag gf din kasi ako sa pinas kaya lang pumunta na naman ng Qatar si bhebe "LDR" din!!! sa ngayon meron nanaman uli dito sa japan pero gpin "LDR" din... ahh pauwi ng pinas hindi alam kung kelan makakabalik! hay naku talaga naman oh narealize ko lang na tayong mga nag aabroad madalas pinoproblema dahil may "LDR" mahirap man tangapin o isipin na kung minsan talagang hindi makatiis ang partner, dami ko rin nakilala dito sa japan na nag hanap na ng iba at niloloko ang nasa malayo , pero paano ba natin talaga dapat harapin ang "LDR" gaano kayo naniniwala dito ? Pls tell some EXP and comments

asl.... 22 Male Tokyo lol

galing naman ng 'LDR" experience mo no?:D wala ka man lang bang normal love affair hehehe! siguro yan ang swerte mo.

long distance relationship works for some, but not for many. maybe it's just 2 out of ten that works. mahirap kasi di ba? di only thing that connects you is the net, the phone, letters.....but hanggang kelan? good if both partners are persevering. more often it ends when other people come into their lives....making one feel superficial love because of the absence of the other.....then the bond breaks.....the usual story:(

"absence makes the heart grow fonder"......does it?

[d_southpaw]

Meron din mga nagwo-work. I know of someone. Mga 5 years yata.
They then got married and live here together after that.

[eve]

True Love waits daw eh, If both of you are true naman, i think it will be Forever. You both will wait until the right time comes. oo nga....IF...a question is IF nga....IF He can wait, If BOTH nga....will wait patiently, and longing only for you, hmmmmmmmmmmm....mala king IF nga...But you know, the best is to be strong, and TRUST must always be there both, I am sure many succeeds and some doesn't, Imagine ang sarap lang siguro talaga ng Feeling, pag naReach nyo yung talagang kayo, proven that you do really love each other, and it proves that you are really meant talaga, di bah?

[eve]

The good thing pag nasa situation kayo ng Long Distance Love Affair, you will able to know if He is the one you can put your Trust. And if it is really LOVE you are feeling to each other, di bah? Loving him/her miles away proves that you loves that person na nga eh...Then, for u both to be strong and faith, well...True Love nga...

[eve]

For me, it depends on you both naman, You must find someone whom you can really trust.and the most yung talagang alam mo na Mahal ka, and Mahal mo rin sya.

[greatbarrier]

i once received an e-mail on "fatal flaws in a relationship". and it mentioned of distance as one of those fatal flaws.

a long-distance relationship is difficult i guess. but it depends on the parties involved. it requires a whole lot of patience from both sides and this i equate to sacrifice.

but for both parties to be able to do that, kelangan meron din constant communication so that each party knows what is happening to the other. kasi baka naman yung isa lang pala ang naghohold-on to the relationship, persevering and sacrificing despite the miles, only to find out in the end that it's not worth all those sacrifices. with constant communication, both parties are somehow assured that there is still something to hold on to.

with constant communication, trust is kept if not increased or developed. you may not see each other physically. but if you communicate constantly, the connection is maintained. granted that one party may not see/know what the other party is doing everyday, so trust may really be an issue. but it will boil down to how you know each other and how you stand in each other's heart!

madalas kasi, trust really becomes an issue due to lack of communication. nagiging paranoid minsan yung isang party even if the other party remains faithful to the relationship. you can not blame your gf or your bf of not thinking negatively if you don't even bother to say hi no matter how busy you are! communication is a lot easier now with the recent technologies!

in my case, i can't say that it's difficult or not difficult. strictly speaking, it may not even qualify with the conventional definition of "relationship", not to mention the extraordinary circumstance paving the way to such "relationship". it's kinda hard to explain. what i can only say is we know that we like each other a lot and we communicate as constant as possible.

i must admit that sometimes, it dawns on me if it's really worth the wait, especially when i'm in nostalgic state. but i know that i wouldn't be able to find the answer now. so what i do is just read again his texts, his e-mails, his IMs....and just have faith that all those messages are sent earnestly..... some of you, guys, might say that it's easier said than done...but i can still manage to do it...i just believe in the goodness of his heart...until when?....that i can't answer...

what, i can only say is.....only God and time can tell if ours is for keeps!

[purpletablet]

i once received an e-mail on "fatal flaws in a relationship". and it mentioned of distance as one of those fatal flaws.

a long-distance relationship is difficult i guess. but it depends on the parties involved. it requires a whole lot of patience from both sides and this i equate to sacrifice.

but for both parties to be able to do that, kelangan meron din constant communication so that each party knows what is happening to the other. kasi baka naman yung isa lang pala ang naghohold-on to the relationship, persevering and sacrificing despite the miles, only to find out in the end that it's not worth all those sacrifices. with constant communication, both parties are somehow assured that there is still something to hold on to.

with constant communication, trust is kept if not increased or developed. you may not see each other physically. but if you communicate constantly, the connection is maintained. granted that one party may not see/know what the other party is doing everyday, so trust may really be an issue. but it will boil down to how you know each other and how you stand in each other's heart!

madalas kasi, trust really becomes an issue due to lack of communication. nagiging paranoid minsan yung isang party even if the other party remains faithful to the relationship. you can not blame your gf or your bf of not thinking negatively if you don't even bother to say hi no matter how busy you are! communication is a lot easier now with the recent technologies!

in my case, i can't say that it's difficult or not difficult. strictly speaking, it may not even qualify with the conventional definition of "relationship", not to mention the extraordinary circumstance paving the way to such "relationship". it's kinda hard to explain. what i can only say is we know that we like each other a lot and we communicate as constant as possible.

i must admit that sometimes, it dawns on me if it's really worth the wait, especially when i'm in nostalgic state. but i know that i wouldn't be able to find the answer now. so what i do is just read again his texts, his e-mails, his IMs....and just have faith that all those messages are sent earnestly..... some of you, guys, might say that it's easier said than done...but i can still manage to do it...i just believe in the goodness of his heart...until when?....that i can't answer...

what, i can only say is.....only God and time can tell if ours is for keeps!

GB says it all, ( i totally agree with you sis!) i have nothing more to add..i just hope that if ever ill be involved in that kind of relationship it would work *sighs* *daydreaming mode*

[infinite_trial]

bwahaha buhay pa tong thread na to....pero yung ka-LDR ko nun wala na kami. gusto nya kasi easy access e...isa pa kinakantyawan sya ng mga friends nya. anyway...LDR pa din pero wit someone who definitely knows how to handle this sort of relationship. hope it will work this time...

[eve]

Oh Yes, IT WORKS!!!tama ka dyan po, it depends on both of you naman talaga, and pag napatunayan nyo both na talagang ok kahit nasa malayo kayo isa't isa, grabeh...kasi nandon talaga yun "LOVE" , right?

[leftbehind]

My husband is not around for ten months now. Ba2litaan ko na lang kayo from time to time if ever na mag-wowork out nga tong relationship namin, my TF family. Sweet Jesus, I'm having the jitters!!!

[gvidanes]

hayyyyy naku....long long distance love affair :rolleyes:

There are difficulties and struggles in LDR :banghead: :bonk: . It often involves more time, energy, emotional strain, and financial sacrifice than other relationship circumstances.

My question is…am I ready to go the distance? And I said :yesyes: As long as both of us are trying our best to work it out. One thing I have learned…to trust another person across the miles with my most vulnerable and valuable treasure: my heart. Naks! Grabe na to! :bowdown: :grinny:

I still do not know how it will end :confused: …basta ang importante, masaya ako. :sweeties: :kiss:

[hayaren]

Eve san appreciate you opened up this issue:) ....from a personal stand point, all along we've been on and off miles apart with my hubby even from that stage we were lovers....:grouphug: parehas kami global citizens :japanese: To thrive in this type of relationship it requires substantial trust ;) to one another, :sssh: perpetual understanding, constant communication:phone: , total submission of oneself to the situation:whistle: .....LDR does work....:tiphat: the temporary separation serves as a testing ground and likewise a foundation that strengthens the bond that ties.:kiss:

:surprise: ....BECAUSE only TIME is capable of understanding how much love there is!:love:

[jamaican]

it dOes work!!! if yOur patient eNough.. hehe! and iF the twO of yOu keep the relationship... shall i say "intact" and keepin' the faith! but if yOu're trying to do it alone... that's another story! hmmmmm.... it takes two to tango!

[cosmicbblgum]

Yes, I believe long distance relationship works as long as both put an effort into it. First both partners should "believe" that it should work, there should always have hope in their hearts. If there is belief, it would produce "action" which will help maintain the relationship. If there is action on both parties for sure there will be "results" and hopefully have a happy ending.

In almost every goals or dreams we want to accomplish belief-action-results should be followed, if a person who wants to succeed in business who wants 'results' first before he 'acts' won't succeed in that business. A person who firmly 'believes' he can succeed no matter what, even if he fails, even just with a small capital will be a successful business tycoon and gain productive 'results'.

Winners never quit and quitters never win. :)

[mbstorun]

...it works kung marami kang phonecard na pantawag at alam mo naman magastos yan lalo na kung may awayan blues....pag inlab na inlab ka pa naku po saglit lang ang phonecard mo di mo namalayan ubos na pala...kaya for me long distance relationship works but need to be more patient..more money rin pati :p

[Tarena314]

...it works kung marami kang phonecard na pantawag at alam mo naman magastos yan lalo na kung may awayan blues....pag inlab na inlab ka pa naku po saglit lang ang phonecard mo di mo namalayan ubos na pala...kaya for me long distance relationship works but need to be more patient..more money rin pati :p naku !! korek ka dyan !!! naranasan ko ito,,halos ikabit ko na yung telepono sa tainga ko ........grabe....... ,,pero sa huli kami pa rin at hanggang ngayon nagmamahalan,,,,:) :) (hajimemashite,,mbst orun),,,,:)

[SHAMPOO]

...it works kung marami kang phonecard na pantawag at alam mo naman magastos yan lalo na kung may awayan blues....pag inlab na inlab ka pa naku po saglit lang ang phonecard mo di mo namalayan ubos na pala...kaya for me long distance relationship works but need to be more patient..more money rin pati :p

Thats right..naranasan ko din yan w/ my hubby...everyday phonecalls plus everyday ang letters nya..sobra gastos but in the end happy naman kami..as long as you trust each other i think walang problema kahit malayo sa isat isa..kahit nga malapit na nagkakahiwalay pa dahil walang trust..what is important is you love and trust each other :D

[docomo]

( buhay pa din to ha:D )


LDR relationships work, yes they do~ they're not impossible... They need a lot of love and strength to nurture them. People say they don't work and that is true if both people don't put 100% effort into it. If you stick with it and find a way around every obstacle, you can make it work. Good Luck:)

@GB
I hope things work out for you.:)

[greatbarrier]

@GB
I hope things work out for you.:) sana nga po kuya doc :)

[uvy]

Para sakin po,depende po yan sa pagdadala nyong dalawa,....kailangan di po mawawalan ng communication at tiwala sa isat isa,.........

[supa_freak]

a penny for your thought :)

no .it doesnt work po for me:hellfire:

[meteor]

No matter how advance technology is, there are still no substitutes for simple little things
like cuddling/teasing each other, a genuine smile, a simple wink, a quick salute,
and of course, gentle kisses.... these things can always make anobody's day productive
and alive.

I'm not against LDR, but I always believe in Einstein's 2nd theory of relativity:
The farther the objects are, the lesser the potential energy.


and I have the feelings LDR played a major part that's why you became ex's now.
however, good luck and make the most out of it.

[mOtt_erU]

For me Long Distance Relationship works....
Kahit Long Distance kami ng asawa ko simula nung magkoibito kame..may times na mahirap syempre lalo na pag nagaaway kame katakot takot ang phone bills at cards pero ngayon naLessen na kasi Sanay na kame..and Newlyweds lang kami last June..Thank God I found him.
Kaya pag mahal nyo talaga ang Isa`t isa...Ipaglaban nyo! and " If there`s a will there`s a way!"..Kung kayo, kayo talaga!..:p

[jazzybabe]

if you really both believe it would work...and it has to be mutual...
though relationship won't last if you both don't have "TRUST","LOYALTY" & especially "LOVE". :)

[pineapple]

for me.. like what thermometer says it works but hard to maintain..
base on my own experience.. bago palang kami ng asawa ko pero ang hirap dalhin ng relationship namin ngayon hindi tulad noong mag bf-gf palang kami nuon kasi palagi kami magkasama unlike now na andito na ako sa pilipinas..sabi pa ng asawa ko bakit kung kelan kami kinasal parang lalu pa kami nalayo sa isat isa.. ang hirap talaga dahil yung mga bagay na gusto mo gawin na kasama siya di mo magawa..yung mga oras na dapat nasa tabi mo siya..wala siya..pero dahil mahal mo..kailangan kumapit ka..kailangan damihan mo ang tiwala at hindi dapat mawawala ang communication..hindi ko rin papayagan na masiran ang relationship namin bilang mag asawa dahil theres always hope in me na magkakasama rin kami when the right time comes..for now gaman shikanai..

[gotchaseeme]

I chanced upon this thread after not droppin' in on this site for quite sometime. I see a lot of love threads in here but this thread really got my interest having been in this kind of relationship for a couple of months now. She's a filipina alright and when I left the Philippines, it was really heartbreaking to see her tears....felt as if I was goin' bonkers! I just told her I will come back to see her again....maybe for a longer period if time and chance permits.

Pretty sweet and thoughtful. I was really blown away by her good heart. I had a brunette girlfriend before. It didn't work. Sure tough to be a conservative guy. I still longed to have a girl with an Asian blood, someone simple. Then I met this Filipina. Great going til now, and gettin' better all the time:)

I only wish it wouldn't be another boo-boo this time. Optimistic me!!

Long distance relationships? It works with trust and love. We just have to hang tough on our decision to keep it going.

It's way past midnight. Got to catch some Z's before 6am!!!:D

[satsuki]

medyo mahirap yan kasi sa dami ng tukso dito sa mundo..pero siguro nasa sa tao na rin yan..:)

[pooh_chan]

As they say " kung walang tiyaga, walang nilaga ". This goes for everything, especially as tough as a long distance relationship. Athough theres's no such things as being predisposed to handle a LDR, there are some clues to gauge whether your personality suits the set-up. According to caroline tiger, author of the Long Distance Relationship Guide: Advice for the geographically Challenged, there are certain types of people who see distance as a very small hurdle in the whole picture. The first type, the Romance Idealist, is one who has a sappy and almost chessy idea about love. These are people who believe in love at first sight, soulmates and destiny.....There's definitely no saying that LDR is for you. Like everything, it really depends on the two tango-ing to the tune of love. I f you choose to go the distance, then do it w/ a pure heart & realistic expectations. Whether or not you end up together, the experience is sure to enrich you..... Just trust him/her, and the most important is the communication is always there, i think everything will going okie......That's my own opinion...:)

[katuray]

i have not read other comments posted here...just share my thoughts..........

i would say yes...because long or short distance its all about how you love somebody .....so if u love somebody vey much it will work...you have to take chances....thats where trust comes in.....if it did not work out....it's the experience of it....that's what life is all about.....all those wonderful experiences,good and bad...and we can only hope the good outweights the bad.....and i believe in destiny...kung kayo talaga whether how far you are,u will end up together........

[Barbie]

I don't think there is anything wrong with long distance relationship in itself. It totally depends on the two people involved. If you're the emotional kind of person that needs to be around your partner every time and day, then obviously it wouldnt work. This of course is my own opinion. It does take two matured and dedicated people to be in a long distance relationship.;)

[leftbehind]

As what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. But in my case, my husband's one year absence is finally taking it's toll on me. We have two kids, my eldest is 3 and my bunso is 6 months old. It's not that I have fallen out of love, all I'm saying is that I miss the warmth and the feeling of being loved by a man. Mahirap din mag-raise ng kids all by myself. Pero ang pinakamahirap is knowing na ung mister ko ay hindi na makatagal ng mag-isa lang kasi lalaki sya. And it pains me to go on like this. If not for my children's future, nunca akong pumayag na mag-abroad sya kasi sa totoo lang, 80% ang chance na hindi na kami muling mabubuo as a family..

[houseboy]

Pero ang pinakamahirap is knowing na ung mister ko ay hindi na makatagal ng mag-isa lang kasi lalaki sya. And it pains me to go on like this. If not for my children's future, nunca akong pumayag na mag-abroad sya kasi sa totoo lang, 80% ang chance na hindi na kami muling mabubuo as a family..

Ambaba talaga ng tingin niyo sa aming mga lalake. Kami rin naman ay may paninindigan. Kaya rin namin ang magpakatatag.

Malay mo, mahal na mahal ka ng asawa mo at nagtitiis talaga siya para mabigyan ka ng magandang buhay kasama na ang inyong mga anak.;)

Mahirap talaga LDR... at magastos.:D

[razzmattazz]

Ambaba talaga ng tingin niyo sa aming mga lalake. Kami rin naman ay may paninindigan. Kaya rin namin ang magpakatatag.

Malay mo, mahal na mahal ka ng asawa mo at nagtitiis talaga siya para mabigyan ka ng magandang buhay kasama na ang inyong mga anak.;)

Mahirap talaga LDR... at magastos.:D

it does work sometimes. minsan hindi. ganon talaga buhay.
kailangan talaga ipagbawal na ang LDR.
may fine ng 50 man-en and hindi sumunod sa batas.

[bijin_half]

ang masasabi ko lang ay ang PAGMAMAHAL iba,, iba ang init ng katawan... hindi nangangahulugan na nakipag sex ang isang tao dahil sa nangungulila sya ay di nya na mahal ang taong malayo sa kanya... my point is,, long distance love ay walang pinagkaiba sa magkasamang nagmamahalan... LOVE is LOVE kaso nga lang pagmalayo sa isat isa andyan ang tukso pero hindi love yun INIT lang ng katawan.....

[infinite_trial]

ang hirap panindigan...susuko na yata ako :cry:

[ayanis-marie]

In me.......it doesn't:( ...
Having to live means,forget it.

[mamimo]

Siguro kung may statistical data ng successful long-distance love affair konti lang to kasi bound for failure ang ganitong klaseng relasyon.

[ganda_ko]

sa experience ko po hindi po nag work sakin ang long distance love affair...

kasi po nung first time kong magpunta ng japan i month pa lang ako dito may ibang girl na yung bf ko samantalang nung nasa pinas pa ako napakamajime nun,hindi yun tumitingin sa ibang girl...
At sa asawa ko po ngayon dati po nung umuwi din ako ng pinas dahil tapos na ang contract ko dito 2 months pa lang meron na siyang girl hindi lang isa madami pa... pero since ng dumating ako dito sa japan majime na po siya uli (wag lang niya uulitin:fence: )

pero ewan ko din baka naman talagang sakit na ng ibang mga lalake na di makontento sa iisang babae....:confused:

[Autumn]

Ang hirap talaga ng LDR..parang......... parang ......gusto ko na din i give up..ang hirap pag miss ko sya..para akong masisiraan ng bait:(

[ANGST]

hello po...
good morning...
for my part I think it's working good naman...
2 weeks before I got here, sinagot ako ng gf ko...
now its lamost 5 months na ndi kami nagkikita, puro text (roaming po ako) en call lang...
Though I'm so afraid na baka mawala yun trust, faith, or love namin sa isa't-isa, nilalabanan na lang namin by constant communication....
I guess that's the only way, and the best way na malagpasan yun LDR namin...

[gvidanes]

ang hirap panindigan...susuko na yata ako :cry:

ang hirap...:banghead: tama ka, sis...minsan gusto ko na ring sumuko. kasi kahit na pinaninindigan ninyong me trust kayo sa isa't isa, me time pa rin na mas marami kang tanong. isa na dun ay "hanggang kelan?" :(

[maimai]

It all depends on the couple... how much they really love each other, how well they can cope without being intimate and their maturity level. A lot of the time it doesn't work out, but there are times when these things do work...


I think a lot of times why it doesn't work is the fact that people don't trust and are not willing to make a compromise... :(..(just like me):O


If you're in a LDR, you have to communication actively... It can work but it takes a lot of work. If it works out then you guys are meant for each other...:)

[mukomae]

kung ako tatanungin ayaw ko ng LDR kasi ayaw ko yun mahal ko di ko nakikita... malungkot kapag ganun, pero i have a friend na almost 4 years din sila nag LDR ngayon ayun kasal na nasa canada and she is pregnant right now...happy ako sa knila... pero before umalis si GUY papunta canada naging mag GF BF sila amost 2years na din, kaya build na ang trust and love sa kanilang dalawa...
yun lang po share ko...:)

[liong]

LDR......ah....... ayoko... ayoko.. ayoko.......:p mahirap, magastos, maraming paghihinala, maraming tanong, maraming kalungkutan, maraming pagkakamiss, maraming luha, maraming beses na di ka makatulog.. inaabot ng umaga kakachat......at ano pa ba....ah.... ah... basta marami pa....:D

ito po ay sarili ko lang na pananaw at base sa aktwal na pangyayari ng kaibigan kong binata:D

[pineapple]

"absence makes the heart grow fonder"......does it?
i do believe...

LDR......ah....... ayoko... ayoko.. ayoko.......:p mahirap, magastos, maraming paghihinala, maraming tanong, maraming kalungkutan, maraming pagkakamiss, maraming luha, maraming beses na di ka makatulog.. inaabot ng umaga kakachat......at ano pa ba....ah.... ah... basta marami pa....:D

ito po ay sarili ko lang na pananaw at base sa aktwal na pangyayari ng kaibigan kong binata:D

liong its a matter of sacrifice.. ganun talaga... pag puso pinag uusapan... once na matamaan ka ng pana ni kupido... lagot ka na... makaka ayaw ka pa kaya???;) :D

[aeroguy30]

LDR mahirap iyan nangyari na sa akin iyan... the past few months okay pa rin ang communication namin, regular chat, sending email messages, ecards, tawag ng long distance ako pa nga ang taga gising niya every morning by saying I love you... kahit na magmukha akong tsonggong puyat sa office hehehe :D:D:D sometimes wala pa akong tulog pero okay lang, in-love eh hehehe...

That's the same reason bakit ako nag quit sa job ko sa Canada at nagpunta dito sa Japan. Later on hindi din pala mag work out ang relationship namin gawa ng may BF pala siya dito sa Japan. Kaya mahirap ang LDR talaga, sometime it works sometime it don't. Gamble yan na you need to take the risk like I did.

Anyway enjoy naman ako sa bago kong environment. Life must go on... :):cool:;)
Merry Christmas to all TF members... :dowave:



Dear someone... hope you find the happiness your looking for... :O:O:O

[chococat]

it will only work if the 2 parties exert every effort to make it work ^_^ it cannot be one-sided. trust and communication are vital in all LDRs. it's hard, yes, but as long as you trust each other and you keep the communication open, it's going to work out in the end. i should know; i just got off one. ngayon, magkasama na kami ulit ^_^

[chris_rock]

it does and it will if you both want it to. when the chips are down, one should be always standing to help the other out. i know it's easier said than done; trust, love, constant communication, compromise, and all that stuff that's supposed to make it work.

probably the only consolation is that maybe someday, everything will be worth the wait. when both of you will be together for keeps. not having to worry about your partner leaving for some faraway place.

so for now, the waiting continues...

[geminigirl]

it does and it will if you both want it to. when the chips are down, one should be always standing to help the other out. i know it's easier said than done; trust, love, constant communication, compromise, and all that stuff that's supposed to make it work.

probably the only consolation is that maybe someday, everything will be worth the wait. when both of you will be together for keeps. not having to worry about your partner leaving for some faraway place.

so for now, the waiting continues...

true....but i really hope it'll be worth the wait. be optimistic friend......:) something good comes up after a very long wait....you never know

[greatbarrier]

it does and it will if you both want it to. very well said chris_rock!

true....but i really hope it'll be worth the wait. be optimistic friend......:) something good comes up after a very long wait....you never know
my friend always tell me that..... good things come to those who wait!

SANA................ ........

[infinite_trial]

waah ang hirap pa din!! pero sana!! sana!! hehehe...

right now ang hirap ng ginagawa ko, blocked pala halos lahat ng means ng communication namin by internet..ang bagal-bagal pa ng work e-mail nya huhuhu!!! kaya tyaga na lang ako sa ftp...palitan ng text file. minsan iniisip ko pano kung eng-eng ako sa ganitong bagay...e di naglupasay na lang ako sa sahig :cry:

[liong]

waah ang hirap pa din!! pero sana!! sana!! hehehe...

right now ang hirap ng ginagawa ko, blocked pala halos lahat ng means ng communication namin by internet..ang bagal-bagal pa ng work e-mail nya huhuhu!!! kaya tyaga na lang ako sa ftp...palitan ng text file. minsan iniisip ko pano kung eng-eng ako sa ganitong bagay...e di naglupasay na lang ako sa sahig :cry:

e kasi naman.... e kasi naman.........:p :D :p peace tayo....:D

[erleen]

Long engagement love affair? No good. 遠距離恋愛はよくない。

[markemist]

ok yan, kami ng gf ko magseseven months na sa feb, sa msn lang lagi.nasa tao yun.trust ang importante dun at syempre yung communication, hindi lang thru internet, you have to call, send emails, gifts to her every once in a while to keep the fire burning. another thing is to give each other something to look forward to,like me,pupunta ako sa thailand this month, just to see her (kahit wala akong pera :() saya ano?:D

[ichimar]

ganito ang sitwasyon ko dati,bago kami nagpakasal ni habibi ko:p long distance relationship,mahirap ,at magastos,kailangan mo talagang magtiis,siguro na sasa inyo na din yun kung mag wowork o hindi........trust lang ang kailangan para mag work......share ko po ang mga love letters ko kay habibi nuon,sa dami ba naman nyan di pa nya ako tuluyan,at sa dami din nyang telephone bill,talaga namang dusa sa bayaran,nandito na ako sa japan nagbabayad pa ako ng bill:p :D pero okey lang dahil nag work naman.......share ko po mga letters,nahalukay ko po sa baul ng lolo ko hehehe:D :p 9273

9274

[freegirl]

@ ichimar ....magandang halimbawa ito ng long distance relationship. Kailangan talaga ng trust, patience, and sacrifice para mag work ang relationship.

[ichimar]

@ ichimar ....magandang halimbawa ito ng long distance relationship. Kailangan talaga ng trust, patience, and sacrifice para mag work ang relationship.salamat po,naku dusa talaga sistah,buti na lang at nakayanan ko:p :D

[freegirl]

talagang makakayanan mo lalo na pati si habibi ay may pinapakitang effort (sending letters) for you....kinilig ako dito:)

[infinite_trial]

ganito ang sitwasyon ko dati,bago kami nagpakasal ni habibi ko:p long distance relationship,mahirap ,at magastos,kailangan mo talagang magtiis,siguro na sasa inyo na din yun kung mag wowork o hindi........trust lang ang kailangan para mag work......share ko po ang mga love letters ko kay habibi nuon,sa dami ba naman nyan di pa nya ako tuluyan,at sa dami din nyang telephone bill,talaga namang dusa sa bayaran,nandito na ako sa japan nagbabayad pa ako ng bill:p :D pero okey lang dahil nag work naman.......share ko po mga letters,nahalukay ko po sa baul ng lolo ko hehehe:D :p 9273

9274

ichimar, di pa ba uso ang email at ym nun? sayang sana nakatipid kayo hehe!!!

in a way, convenient na ngayon ang mga LDR dahil sa technology. kung wala nyan di ako magtyatyaga sa pasulat-sulat. sobrang iksi ng pasensya ko.

[ichimar]

ichimar, di pa ba uso ang email at ym nun? sayang sana nakatipid kayo hehe!!!

in a way, convenient na ngayon ang mga LDR dahil sa technology. kung wala nyan di ako magtyatyaga sa pasulat-sulat. sobrang iksi ng pasensya ko.
hehehe,uu nga hirap din kasi ng LDR,pero boto ako kay:D anu,pagtyagaan mo na,hehehe:p ala pa ym nun,typewriter pa lang hehehe,kaya gastos at sakit ng kamay ko kakasulat,nagkakalyo nga eh:p :D

[infinite_trial]

hehehe,uu nga hirap din kasi ng LDR,pero boto ako kay:D anu,pagtyagaan mo na,hehehe:p ala pa ym nun,typewriter pa lang hehehe,kaya gastos at sakit ng kamay ko kakasulat,nagkakalyo nga eh:p :D

pero sweet kapag snail mail. bihira na kasi nagpapadala nyan ngayon. sa email kasi, minsan paisa-isang linya na lang. naamaze lang ako talagang naitago mo pa ung mga sulat ng hubby mo sayo hehe.

[ichimar]

pero sweet kapag snail mail. bihira na kasi nagpapadala nyan ngayon. sa email kasi, minsan paisa-isang linya na lang. naamaze lang ako talagang naitago mo pa ung mga sulat ng hubby mo sayo hehe.
uu nga dami nya,hehehe..lang palya.........:p :D

[infinite_trial]

i'm givin this LDR one last try...one last try...dammit...how many one last tries?

[circle]

isa po ako sa kakaunting ngsu-survive sa ganitong set-up.. :D
1year and 7 months.. and still counting

[martiy_ph]

it will survive as long as you really love and trust each other

[RODSKI]

Sakin nag work out, from 1997 and we got married last year:)

[chie]

I should say that this is true.. In my case, I was even engaged before coming here in Japan. We were together for more than 5 years. (know each one's family) and have plans of settling down...I left him because I had a chance to study here and granted a scholarship.. for a couple of months, we tried so hard to work and save our relationship.. we keep in touch thru chatting, phone calls, exchanging emails.. but after sometime, we realized that its so tiring and hard.. he went here to visit me, yet we still broke up..

but we didn't became friends.. :(

[sitsukoime]

Pa join here sa thread:) Based on what i read in here, some LDR work's:) some are not:O I think it really depend's on the couple how will they handle their LDR,right?? If both feeling's is true strong and u have whole trust w/ each other, u have constant communication's and u dont feel bored with ur LDR.Maybe somehow it i'll works,but still depend's on the person.It is really hard to maintain a LDR but if u really luv the person try to work and fight on it.:) Buti na lang ako di kmi LDR ni fafa ko, nag LDR lng kmi pag war:p waa hiii hiii!!

[mamimo]

I want to believe that when love is real nothing seems impossible:)

dagdag lang.....pero pag dumating na ang boredom hirap na paniwalaan mga salitang to!

[purpletablet]

i guess it will work as long as both parties are very much willing to do so.. :D

[infinite_trial]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa...

[Soju6]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa...

Don't ask too many questions, you and him both.

What you or him don't know won't hurt.:rolleyes:

Gets?

[RODSKI]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa... . . . . Kaya ng powers mo yan:p ako nga almost 8rs eh,kailangan lang magkaintindihan talaga kayo.

[purpletablet]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa...


kaya yan! ;) as long as willing kayo magsacrifice...as long as walang bibitiw....as long as open lagi ang communication nyo... marami naman pong means para maging open ang communication nyo ;)

good luck sis! alam kong kaya nyo yan.. dont worry isasama ko kayo lagi sa prayers ko :)

[maimai]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa...


tatagal yan siguradoh!! ano ang ginagawa ng YM..:D ;)

goodluck sa inyo dalawa!!:)

[docomo]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa...

I would say just relax , enjoy yourself and follow your heart. If it doesn't feel right,it's not. :)

[bonbon'79]

It depends between the two people (man and woman)... If they are determined to be with each other, kahit malayo sa isa't isa, dapat mag-sacrfice talaga. Pero kung madali namang pumasok sa temptations, wala na. Tapos na ang lahat... Dapat determindao lang kayong dalawa.

[mae_angel]

It depends between the two people (man and woman)... If they are determined to be with each other, kahit malayo sa isa't isa, dapat mag-sacrfice talaga. Pero kung madali namang pumasok sa temptations, wala na. Tapos na ang lahat... Dapat determindao lang kayong dalawa.

Correct ka jan! Lots of sacrifices but in the end pag nakita ulit kayo EXCITING:D :D :D
Pero sa teknolohiya ngaun, walang impossible sa dalawang nagmamahalan.
Kami ngaun ng papa ko eh panay padala ng cards sa isa't isa, chat sa YM at phone calls.
hayyyy nakakamiss!:rolleyes :

Understanding, Patience, Trust, Respect and Communication!!!! in order to survive and dont forget the LOVE!!!!!!!!

[rodralig_jp]

Unfortunately for me, a long distance relationship didnt work out...

We began dating in Manila around 1995/1996; and after graduating from college I went to Japan... The relationship lasted three years, it just naturally died out. Though we are still friends and always wish the best for each other, the passion just wasnt there anymore.

I would guess that one of the problem then was that the lack of keeping in contact... Remember that this was the time when the internet still wasnt prevalent in the Philippines, and the only means of staying in contact are through international phone calls (really expensive, unless you used those "cards" bought in Ueno), and snail mails (thanks to the Philippine Post, can take weeks to arrive).

If ever there were infrastructures in place to keep us in constant contact (there is only an hour's time difference between Tokyo and Manila) like SMSes, Skype, etc. - could it have ended differently? Maybe so, maybe not...

[Stacie Fil]

so far okay naman...

sana tumagal pa...


"So far" pala eh, bakit kasi pinatatagal pa yaaaan??? :grinny: Just joking.

Bakit naman "sana..." , nawawalan ka na ba nang pag-... asa? :yikes: :shutup:


Kidding aside, parang alon daw yan, may cycle. May low tide, high tide, big wave, short wave, UHF, VHF, at iba pang frequency.:D

Kaya kung nakatira ka sa tabing dagat o mangingisda ka, normal lang yan nao-obserbahan mo. Teka-teka, malayo na yata ako sa dalampasigan.

Aaaah! Ang gusto ko palang sabihin eh, kagaya nang namamalakaya, kailangan daw laging may kasamang panalangin. Para laging safe sailing, ano man ang weather. Mas masaya raw kung sabay kayo pati oras nang dalangin, kahit malayo. Yun daw yung pag-aalaga ninyo sa bawat isa in thoughts and hearts.....beating as one.

pis

[docomo]

" kailangan daw laging may kasamang panalangin". pis

i~bold ko yung letter para mabasa ... pis din infinite_trial :p :D

[la_tina512]

Unfortunately, it didn't work for us. Ako nakatiis my ex-husband did not. Okay na sana kung flings lang pero he impregnated his girlfriend kaya hindi na nakakawala. Siguro ginusto na rin niya kasi hindi pa ako makasunod sa kaniya. I was thinking kung noon ba meron ng ym with webcam and mic maghihiwalay pa rin kami? I doubt it. Hindi naman niya puwedeng yakapin at halikan ang computer much more to make love with it. Siguro we're not meant to be together talaga.

[MISAchan]

for us po ni hubby it works:D ,though until now LDR pa rin naman kami,dahil nandito pa kame ni baby sa 'pinas while he's in japan..

it was year 2000,when we started our relationship,since talento po ako,everytime i come home sa ph ay punta din siya kahit once lang until i decided to quit as a talent in 2003,since then ay dito na po'ko sa 'pinas and he always come here every january,april and august plus everyday calls and weekly chats at ung mga gifts and cards pag may occasion ay di nawawala..nag-aaway kami palagi sa phone pag late ang kol nya or asa made ang nomikai nya but still tatawag siya kasi pag di siya tumawag para na akong luka luka,di ko na lam gagawin ko at lam nya naman yon...:rolleyes: di maiiwasan ang magdoubt though may tiwala po ako sa kanya,pero sa mga taong nakakasama nya ay wala :mad: kaya takot pa rin ako...marami na din po akong inubos na luha at pinakawalang mga opportunity but i believe it's all worth it dahil kami pa rin ang nagkatuluyan,at dahil may baby na kami:D ,i can say na mas naging malalim ang trust and faith na foundation ng aming relationship and most of all i thank God dahil binigay nya ang lalaking pinangarap kong makasama sa buhay:p ..

everyday, I'm entrusting our life to our dear God,in that way ay anshin na po ako..:p

[shinshinobi]

it works for others, but not for me.

probably because:

A. I need to talk intimately

B. I need someone's affection

C. I need to laugh with my honey. (in person)

D. I need to kiss, hug, cuddle someone I love. (not just a pillow)

E. I need someone to go out and enjoy outdoors.

F. I need to make love (with my loved one)

G. I need to share my ideas, problems, dreams with a loved one (not just a diary)



yung iba iisipin ko pa...hehe

salamat po

[Autumn]

its still working...so far..sana magtagal pa :)

[diane-hideki]

kami rin ni habi ko LDR...dito kami sa pinas ng 2 naming chikitings! happy naman ako kahit ganito ang sitwasyon namin! everyday marami beses sya tumatawag...ang call nya pagkagising sa umaga b4 pumasok sa kaisha nya,b4 sya kumain ng tanghalian,kapag hima sya or nagdadrive!,pagkauwi ng hauz nya,at b4 matulog...everyday yan ang tawag nya! yan ang nakasanayan naming 2,evey month rin umuuwi sya dito! nagpapaalam sya kung san sya pupunta sa yasumi nya,mahilig sya magpachinko pinagbabawalan ko na sya kaya lang sa tingin ko mas ok na yun kaysa naman magkahilig sa babae diba? mahirap ang long distance relationship pero kung both party eh ginagawa ang lahat para di mawala ang love yan naman ang importante diba? kasi pag nawala ang love wala na lahat,dun na papasok lahat ng problema hanggang sa mapunta na sa separation...marami na rin kaming napagdaanang problema,ang dami na rin naming beses na muntik na kaming maghiwalay buti nalang eto pa rin kami sa awa ng diyos di pa naman napupunta dun,madalas naman kasi ako ang nagsisimula! ang no. system kasi namin eh bago isipin ang mga sarili namin kapakanan muna ng mga anak namin...laging nauuna ang mga bata kaya siguro hanggang ngayon matatag pa rin kami.....sana naman for life na talaga kami!

[hiroyuki28]

somehow this works for us..
constant communication is a big factor kung bakit kami nakkasurvive..
sa 2 years ko dito..walng palya, araw-araw kaming nagchatchat..if di man makpagchat
we call/text each other..
pag nsa ofc ako..kasama ko si CHIKKA, pag nasa labas me ng bahay/ofc kasma ko
si KEITAI ME-RU..
ganun kami lagi..kya tuwing mag-uusap kami andun pa rin ung kilig at sparks!
:)

[gerbie]

depende talaga sa satisfaction yan ng tao at decision nya kung "sya" na ba talaga para sa kanya kahit ilang dagat pa at ilang bansa pa ang pagitan nila. :D
mahirap kung mahirap... pero nasa hirap daw ang sarap, di ba? :sneaky:

[simplymystic]

if you're really meant for each other... nothing is impossible ...it will works.... :) ;)

[masahiro]

.. minsan nga yung ngang kasama mo na eh parang di mo kasama ... nandyan nga pero di mo maramdamang nandyan .. LDR pa :p
agree ako dyan doc...:D

[timbog]

as long as theres a complete trust in both end.... theres nothing to worry...

[katheyrine]

as long as theres a complete trust in both end.... theres nothing to worry...

I agree with papa Timbog here...COMPLETE TRUST.
Sa tagal naming mag nobyo ng kabiyak ko eh dito lamang kami nabuo sa TIWALAng ito.
Sobrang hirap lang talaga...lalo na sobrang daming temptation sa paligid na nangungulbit.:D

[rockinchiq]

Complete trust,loyalty,honest y,respect and proper communication..the Love will survive.near or far..:)

[greatbarrier]

naresurrect pala thread na to....it`s been a while since i made my first post on this thread... & until now, LDR pa rin ako :D ......with a different person though.....but then, i will iterate what i posted before...

trust, communication, patience, & faith are the keys to make it work...

trust on each other`s love for one another... constant communication that somehow diverts our attention of the miles between us...patience & faith that we`re gonna be together soon....

and i`m glad that we`re on the same page of my pin.... :)

[sta.rita]

LDR din po ako and still have faith na magwork......

[houseboy]

LDR?

You should start learning this song...:D


uzitOsxKJNY


For sure, it will end up like this.:D:p;)

[shakey]

Its true its not easy, and it all depends on the people involve. There are people who are weak, others are focus on each others protecting the relationship.It intails lots of patience, sacrifice and fidelity. From the thousands of OFW around the world, you'll encounter various stories on the same matter,"long distance love affair". There are those who had succeed and there are also others who are not that lucky to maintain the relationship.

tama ka jan mod STACIE...every seconds meron pedeng mabago or mangyari lalo nat di kayo nag kikita..

[maque]

Complete trust,loyalty,honest y,respect and proper communication..the Love will survive.near or far..:)agree :D lalo na pag we last till sa pagdating niya :p

[carlatot]

mahirap tlaga ang LDR .. id been there many times.. and untill now im still in , but in a different person na nga lng .. ;)

[kyla]

it will work if you have a complete trust on your partner ......... :)

[faye11]

god knows:)

[coffee]

yes. ilan sa family member namin at may
ilan friend din ako na nasa ganito ang situation.
totong trust ang kanilang foundation.

[infinite_trial]

it works when both of you are willing to work it out...especially when you take turns in the driver's seat.

[Soju6]

Lots of "if's" ...


more than a year or two...start kissing your love goodbye.

[timbog]

sabi ko dati it will work... but not now... i proved it myself... mahirap pala :(

[maque]

ive tried to make it work... binuhos ko lahat lahat ng makakaya ko... sadyang mahirap katunggali ang temptation ng buhay...

[chepot]

i've been there........in my case..:yesyes:obviou s ba? 5 years po kami before we settled..andito ako sa japan ngayon and married with a japanese with two kids.

Lahat ng bagay hindi kailangang madaliin..kung talagang kayong dalawa kahit ano pang mangyari, kayo pa ring dalawa in the end.

"Hardships makes us strong...Problems give birth to wisdom..Sorrows cultivate compassion for others..Those who suffered the most can become the happiest"

Ay, ano ba ito...hindi ata bagay sakin..napakaaga yata nitong pag emote ah..:p

[papa_aj]

dumugo ilong ko don ah.. di ko madig, ang deep ng english ni sis chepot. hehehe...

kidding aside, tama po yon... yun lng... hehehe

[engr_jazon]

PRESENT!!!

[bahaykubo]

ldr mahirap ito...pero ok lang sakin...

[aki^-^]

mahirap pag malayo pero kailangan may TRUST talaga:)
like sa amin mag asawa...nasa japan sya at nasa pinas ako.... .....nakakapraning minsan (praning kase ako *wink*) at malungkot.. as in hirap magadjust lalo na pag malayo mahal mo sa buhay
... at ngayon 10 days na lang... zutto na kami magkakasama.... mababantayan ko na sya at maaalagaan.....:) babawi ako sa lahat ng pagkukulang ko... :)

naniniwala ako.. kung talagang sya ang God's will mo... kahit malayo pa sya.... kayo at kayo padin ang magkakatuluyan:)

[Spice]

It works for me. Meron naman PLDT noon at AT$T. Nowadays Yahoo messnager at webcam.

[miles]

i've been there........in my case..:yesyes:obviou s ba? 5 years po kami before we settled..andito ako sa japan ngayon and married with a japanese with two kids.

Lahat ng bagay hindi kailangang madaliin..kung talagang kayong dalawa kahit ano pang mangyari, kayo pa ring dalawa in the end.

"Hardships makes us strong...Problems give birth to wisdom..Sorrows cultivate compassion for others..Those who suffered the most can become the happiest"

Ay, ano ba ito...hindi ata bagay sakin..napakaaga yata nitong pag emote ah..:p

Corrected Bye!!!:D May TAMA ka!!! TAMA ka na.. :toofunny: Joke lang ha.. seriously tama ka dyan sis.. kaya lang ang sa akin puro hardship and suffering wala pa yung happiest.. :weep:.. pero alam ko darating din yan..

[gerbie]

LDR requires complete trust and patience.

[infinite_trial]

it's easy to tell your partner to trust you but if you give em sumthin to worry about...esp. if you've done sumthin wrong in the past, then it's useless

[shinshinobi]

puwede namang ituloy ang relationship sa Second Life...

[gerbie]

LDR requires complete trust and patience.

LDR partners should have an open ear to listen and a whole mind to understand.. it is not a requirement but a plus.

it's easy to tell your partner to trust you but if you give em sumthin to worry about...esp. if you've done sumthin wrong in the past, then it's useless

exactly why i failed.

[wired]

LDR...have been working with me for 2 years now...trust and prayers lang po...mahirap ang emotional struggle...sobra...

[row_wena]

about LDR, mahirap po talaga. sa ngayon napakagulo ng relationship namin ng bf ko sa pinas. pero ika nga nila, kung kayo talaga ang para sa isa't isa kayo talaga.. oh well.. :) siguro trust and prayers lang po..

[row_wena]

fafa wired, 2 years nga lang ba?!;)

[mariepippe02]

sna naman it works kc mahal na mahal ko yung asawa ko!pro minsan nakakatakot din kc bka magkasawaan at magkalamigan d ko yata kaya yun huhuhu!

[ensanguined]

time will tell if it would work. ^_^
if it is meant to be, it is.
if it is not, then not.
そんなかんじ覚えた、Cebuへ行った時に 、フィリピン人の彼女は浮気して、俺がマニ ラへ帰って、もういた、他の。

[pinoy_0115]

Miss you bong!