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[summerghie]

gandang umaga na pla..hello people..:wink: i need your advice para sa fren ko..kasi before talent siya ngkaroon siya ng relationship sa isang pinoy na may visa din and their relationship last for 3 yrs mahigit.she got pregnant and gave birth.my fren love this guy so much na khit na ngmukhang tanga siya for how many years na bukod sa may asawa na eh nam babae pa habang andun siya sa pinas ngpapalaki ng tiyan..when she gave birth un guy umuwi at pumirma sa birth certificate nun bata.buntis pa lng siya marami na siya naririnig about the 3rd party pero deadma siya then nun huling work niya dito natauhan ata at yun nkipaghiwalay yun fren ko heres the problem ; she found a new love w/ this nihonjin na willing siyang pakasalan at willing maging father ng baby nya. ngpakasal na sila at gusto ng nihonjin ampunin un anak nya eh kaso yun tatay eh ayaw pumayag.my question is; is there a possibilty pursuing the adoption even if the father disagree?
thank you sa mgrereply..:wink:

[sharja]

Hello summerghei,

Good for your friend to finally natauhan and she is lucky to found somone who loves her enough to marry and wants to adopt the child. Nasa Pilipinas ba ang bata? which is sa Pilipinas mangyari ang adoption, tama ba ako? The reason I ask is that, my brother in law is vacationing here, he is a prosecutor sa atin. I know that he can answer according to the Philippine law. Taga saan ba ang friend mo? The reason I ask, is that I know a lot of people in the social services because I think the process of adoption also involve this government agency.

Ingat!

[summerghie]

Hello summerghei,

Good for your friend to finally natauhan and she is lucky to found somone who loves her enough to marry and wants to adopt the child. Nasa Pilipinas ba ang bata? which is sa Pilipinas mangyari ang adoption, tama ba ako? The reason I ask is that, my brother in law is vacationing here, he is a prosecutor sa atin. I know that he can answer according to the Philippine law. Taga saan ba ang friend mo? The reason I ask, is that I know a lot of people in the social services because I think the process of adoption also involve this government agency.

Ingat!

thanks sharja
actually isa ako sa dahilan kung bakit siya natauhan kasi marami kasing ngsabi sakin ng mga kalokohan nun lalaking yun, well proven yun ha..naku long story lang kung ishashare ko pa yun mga ginawang kalokohan nun lalaki eh baka mapagod lng ang mga reader s haba :) kaso nun una i was hesitant to tel her kasi gusto ko sana siya ang makadiscover lahat kasi she wont believe in hear and say lang. gusto daw niya in her two own eyes nya makita eh napakaimpossible eh kasi malayo yun work nya doon sa tinitirhan nun guy at working place nun babae na kinalolokohan..actua lly doon s omise na yun sya unang nangaling.ayoko sanang makialam kasi naging fren ko rin yun guy kaso nakikita ko nahihirapan na yun fren ko atska lalabas naman na di ako tunay na kaibigan kapag di ko sinabi sa kanya diba..kaya yun kahit na nagalit tlg sakin yun lalaki eh i rather choose my real fren na alam ko tama yun ginawa ko..
yes un bata nasa pinas and i think my friend is just waiting for the releasing of her visa kasi kinasal lang sila nun dec. gusto niya sana na ayusin na yun adoption papers nun bata para makasunod dito. shes residing at pampanga.pakitanong na lng sa brother in law mo ha ..thank you talaga..
you take care too...

[chubby_kulot]

hello summerghie :wavey:

like what sharja say...good for your friend na natauhan sya...and now she`s married to her loving hubby...and how lucky she is to have a friend like you... :king: i dont think na pwedeng maampon un bata ng asawa nyang nihonjin dahil nga sa disagree pa un pinoy na ama...may rights pa rin kasi un ama nung bata na magdesisyon..kung papayag ba sya o hindi na ipaampon un baby nya dun sa bagong asawa ng dati nyang asawa o kinakasama... bakit di nila daanin sa maayos na pag uusap na lang...kasi kahit na i-pursue nila ang adoption papers kung walang pirma parin un tunay na ama..di parin magagawang maampon un bata..or kung maampon man un bata at walang alam un tunay na ama na naampon ng iba un anak nya..pwede syang magsampa ng demanda dun sa mga taong naging daan para maampon ng iba un anak nya..at baka pati un hapon eh madamay pa sa gulo...mas mainam siguro na daanin nila ito sa maayos na pag uusap...para maging maayos na rin ang buhay nung bata kung sakaling matuloy ang pag ampon sa kanya...

ask ko lang po..un tatay po ba nung bata ay nagsusutento sa ina...para sa anak nila?maayos ba pagbibigay ng sustento?

[docomo]

@summerghie

hindi ma~aampon ang bata hanggat hindi nag sa~sign na payag ang tatay ... pero may possibilities na mapunta sa nanay ang bata yan eh kung mapapatunayan sa korte na hindi kayang alagaan at mabigyan ng magandang kinabukasan yung bata .... sa korte kasi .. ang magiging magandang kinabukasan ng bata ang magiging priority( opinyon ko lang yan ha) :)

[sharja]

Hello summerghie,
Tama si Docomo, the court can determine the welfare of the child. Having said that, I spoke to my brother in law, as I said he is a public procecutor, but not in her area. What he said is that, it is necessary for the father to sign but if not she can bring her to court. I don't want to go into details but if she is interested, she can email me at
sharja@yahoo.com .
Ingat!

[love72]

makikisagot nga rin po ako,kasi medyo pareho sa problema ko to,dati rin kasi ayaw pumirma ng asawa ko dati sa adoption ng anak ko,nanghingi ng 50 thau bago pumirma,shoganai nagbayad kami ayun pumirma pero sa harap ng lawyer,tapos umuwi kami ng hubby ko para ma apply ung adoption marami kasi pipirmahan papeles kailangan pa medical clearance nila mag asawa pati ng bata iaapon,at kailangan pa sila iinterview ng dswd,6 buwan daw ang proseso ng adoption puwera pa ung inter country adoption un yata ang matagal,kung ako sa fren mo habang nasa pinas sya asikasuhin na nya ung adoption ng anak nya,tungkol sa pirma ng tatay di naman ata sila kasal nung lalaki na un eh may paraan dun tanong na kamo siya sa abogado,in my case kasal na kami nung hinayupak ko asawa nung pinanganak siya kaya kailangan ng pirma nya,sa case ng fren mo kung di sila kasal nung lalaki my paraan pa kahit di pumirma ung lalaki alam ng mga abogado gagawin sa problema nya,sana nakatulong ako sa problema ng fren mo.god bless:)

[sharja]

Hello again Summerghie,
I wanted to clarify my previous post. The reason why I gave my email address, not because I am soliciting any business but because as I said, I have spoken to my brother in law,( a lawyer and a prosecutor), what he said is his signiture is still needed for adoption even if she is not married to him. This is a special case, and must be dealt with in a delicate matter. Yes, DSWD plays an important role in this case too. I can give her info about how to do this too. I know a lot of people in this department.(higher ups) agian, if she is interested to hear more, better email me.
Ingat!

[summerghie]

hi to everybody and thanks for spending your time answering my question.

@chubby kulot; ngsusustento naman but there are times na ng skip sya ewan ko lang ngaun pinaalam na nya na kinasal siya.actually ayaw pa nun una makipaghiwalay sa kanya kaya di niya alam nun una kung papaano niya ipapaalam na mgpapakasal siya kasi baka guluhin lang siya.

@docomokung finacial support no problem pero yun taking care of his daughter siguro yun medyo malabo.

@sharja thank you again;dont you worry i will tell her if she calls me again.

@love72medyo similar nga problem nyo kaso in your case married ka siya hindi atska apilyido niya ang dinadala nun bata yun nga lang nakapirma yun lalaki sa birth certificate nun bata.mahabang process pala yan. i just thought na it will not be a big problem kasi di naman sila kasal eh yun pala medyo mahirap..