Why would you stay?

[chris_rock]

guys, has it ever occured to you na you fell in love with someone kahit alam mong impossible na maging kayo? assuming naging kayo, pero ang daming kalaban; distance...prioritie s...etc. sometimes i ask myself, is it really worth waiting for?

given na mahal mo yung tao; how long should you wait. should you not give up? and if ever you do, for what reason/s?

hehe, depressed nanaman ako. am so sick and tired. much as i'd like to ask her to stay...hindi naman pwede (on her part).

lecheng pag ibig talaga ito.

[dcat]

alam mo chris_rock my man, nanggaling na ako dyan eh.:)

You should give up as soon as you think that there is no chance for the relationship to last because you don't sense the other is doing all she can for you guys to be together.

The best way to do that is to tell a neutral friend or two, preferably those who doesn't know her, as honestly as you can about how things are. Because you love her you will tend to defend her so be mindful of yourself. They will eventually advise you, and their advice will be very important to you. Just think that, unlike you, they're not attached to the situation so they will tend to be objective. However, you will still be the one who's gonna decide so in the end it's all up to you.

Remember:
Prolonging unrequited love is dangerous 'cause after a while it'll become an obsession, and then you'll begin to hate her, and then, well, in the end it will all come to nothing and you just wasted your time.:( You don't want it to come to that, do you now?

I remember a qoute that is relevant how ever you see it: "Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.":)

Advice: Listen to the kind of music that will make you happy. Great happy music will ring on your ear for a whole day or a week even. And watch Shawshank Redemption, again if you have to. ;)

[TR250]

Ilang beses na lalu na ngayon na mas trip ko ay yung may sabit para mas may challenge. Kaya lang talagang allergic ako pag naging seryoso na ang usapan. Dati dalaga pero ngayon trip ko dalana. Dahil hindi nga pwede ay naging best friend ko na lang yung isa at least maski wala na ay magkaibigan pa rin (madlas pa rin kaming nagkikita pero nagpapalibre pa rin ako :D ).
Meroon akong ilang kapatid-kapatiran pero yung isa ay batang-bata na super cute at parating naka mini galing ng korte at di mapapagkamalang dalana at siya lang siguro ang kaya akong paikutin. 3 years ko na siyang kapatid-kapatiran pero dahil alam ko na pag nagkaroon ako ng relasyon dito sa batang ito ay delikado ang tayo ko dahil di siya katulad nung iba na ako ang nagpapaikot. Para kong trumpo pag napaikot. Kaya ngayon ay bagamat type ko ay shut-up na lang ako at hanggang tingin na lang (at paamoy-amoy... hmmm amoy bebe:D ). Pero grabe ang nangyayari dahil di ako naglalabas sa babae (dati akong pro at di talaga ako naglalabas...) pero napansin ko na konting lambing lang nitong batang ito ay ikot kaagad ang pwet ko to the point na parang naging isa akong DOM na nung naglambing tungkol sa kotse niya ay libre kong inayos at iba na ngayon ang hitsura ng kotse niya dahil sa kakakabit ko ng kung ano-anong piyesa. Syempre dahil dalana ay di ko pwedeng bigyan ng bago dahil ayashi. Ang gago ay di naka tiis at bumili ng kaparehong kotse para lang piyesahin para sa kotse ng bata. Para di buking ng ibang sis at ni esmi na may favoritism ay kailangang pantay din ang trato ko dun sa ibang sis. Ayoko nang sabihin ang iba ko pang pinaggagagawa kagaguhan dahil grabe pero alam kong hindi siya nakakahalata at ang alam lang niya ay parang batang kapatid lang talaga ang turin ko sa kanya at mabait lang talaga si kuya. Sarap palang mag kontrol, parang SM.
Siguro ay OK na rin ito dahil puros halayan ang nasaisip ko nuon at walang kontrol pero ngayon ay maski maglambing pa siya ay style kuya pa rin at dahil siguro malayo ako sa mga kapatid ko kaya pagnaglambing siya ay parang kapatid talaga ang trato ni kuya. Sigurado rin ako na maski magtalop pa siya sa harap ko ay walang mangyayari at tatalikod lang ako:rolleyes: . Hirap mag kontrol pero very challenging at sarap din ng pakiramdan na malaman at sabihin sa sarili na "hoy bata style mo panis at di uubra yan kay kuya" at kaya ko palang magkontrol... . Mahusay na walang mangyayari dahil siguradong tatamarin na namn ako pag umabot ito dito. Medyo kinakabahan lang ako pag nahulog siya dahil lately ay medyo iba ang napapansin kong approach niya at iba na rin ang pagpapa cute at paglalambing pero she has to beg dahil di ako easy to getz :D

Alang kokontra sa trip ko dahil ganyan siguro pag tumatanda :biglaugh:
Your friendly DOM neighbor...

[chris_rock]

@dcat, nothing feels better than sticking it out with someone or something. but you're right, unrequited love can and will turn ugly eventually. when you wrote "Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go", it hit me that all this time i've been thinking of the opposite all along. acceptance is the key, not denial.

it is in accepting defeat that one can let go of all the anguish and disappointment. it is in accepting defeat that one learns...forgives... forgets.

@tr250, buti ka pa dami kang kapatid kapatiran :D

thanks guys!

[docomo]

@chris rock

.. things are not always as they appear ... figure out what you want and go get it...only you can answer that..but then your decision should be clear ..if you love her that much and only want her then this shouldn't be the issue right?

i think it always hurt less in the end to be honest :)

[chris_rock]

hi doc :). yeah i know, things can be deceiving most of the time. kainis lang minsan eh. pag miss na miss mo yung tao pero you can't do anything about it. i'd give anything just to be with her...anything! minsan dedma siya eh :(

i'll always hope that things don't change for us. i always wear my heart on my sleeve. i'm proud and happy of the path i chose; sana lang sya din.

and yes...i'd like to think i've been pretty honest about it.

[TR250]

hi doc :). yeah i know, things can be deceiving most of the time. kainis lang minsan eh. pag miss na miss mo yung tao pero you can't do anything about it. i'd give anything just to be with her...anything! minsan dedma siya eh :(

i'll always hope that things don't change for us. i always wear my heart on my sleeve. i'm proud and happy of the path i chose; sana lang sya din.

and yes...i'd like to think i've been pretty honest about it.

Naku mukhang mali ang akala ko. Akala ko kasi ay may tali rin kaya di ka makaporma ng lantaran... kaya nga ibinahagi ko yung kwento ko dahil sa maling pag-aakala. Anyway, nasulat ko na yan at di na natin pwede pang bawiin pero OK lang para namanmalaman mong di ka nag-iisa.

Yang karelasyon na nasa malayong lugar ay talagang pinaka bad trip sa lahat. Dati nagkaroon din ako ng ganyan pero di tumagal dahil di ko nakayanan. Siguro ay mahina lang talaga ako pero dahil mukhang matatag ka naman ay siguradong kaya ninyong lampasan yan. Sa tutuo ay meroon akong kaibigang nasa malayo at isang taon mahigit na kaming hindi nagkikita dahil sa trabaho, layo ng lugar at sa mga tali namin. Matagal na akong nawalang ng interes pero di ko na lang sinasabi at sa tingin ko ay OK na ring walang banggitin dahil kung magkikita man kami ay siguradong maiksi lang at di na ulit kami magkikita ng matagal. Yana ng pagiingatan mo na huwag kang matulad sa amin. Basta huwag lang puputulin ang komyunikasyon dahil diyan maguumpisa na tamarin ka o tamarin siya.

Sorry at nagkamali ako ng akala... walang sukuan at imagine mo na lang muna yung araw na magkikita ulit kayo.

Andiyan nga yung mga sis ko pero lahat sila sis lang... at gusto ko yung hindi talaga pwede. Inis nga talaga dahil kanina ay pumunta ulit pero may kasamang dalawang maliliit na body guards...

[chris_rock]

eh very welcome po yung post mo sir. natuwa nga ako when i read it, hehe kulet ng stories mo ha! :)

thanks for sharing.

ps kumusta na lang po sa mga sis mo :) sana po, ipinapasyal mo muna yung 2 bodyguards para may time kayong makapg-usap ng sis.

[honey]

hi chris rock

nakaranas din ako ng ganyan pero patuloy ko pa rin minahal yung taong gusto ko hanggang sya na ang naggive up sa relationship namin kaya hinayaan ko na lang din sya kasi dun na sya masaya.

Syempre kung mahal ka ng taong mahal mo ipaglalaban mo diba kahit gaano kahirap,kalayo o impossible na maging kayo basta alam mo na andyan pa rin sya.Pero kung nararamdaman mong nanlalamig.. na yun na yung time na iset free mo sya:D .Mahirap kasi ipilit yung wala nang love...

[kidd11211988]

oo nga ...wala naman kxe mangyayari kung pa2loy mo parin xang mamahalin ...ikaw lang ang masasaktan ...sa tingin ko ...haiii ..pag ibig na nanlalamig ..ehehe

[benihana]

of course, finding out the hard way is the best!
that's why there's a saying.... pag may tiyaga, may nilaga. (kala ko ba mahilig ka sa nilaga?;) :D )

[Chibi]

hehehehe!parang" somewhere down the road" to ah!:p nakaka relate ako dito....All i can say is sayang ung time kung di naman magiging kayo in the end,naks!!parang ako!:eek: ako nauntog na!!or inuntog yata ako!:( kahit maraming luhang umagos!ngekkkkk!!!ha pi na ko ngayon sa hubby ko,nakalimutan ko rin siya.

[Autumn]

Why i would stay..? siguro pag nakita ko na may remedyo pa..
pag wala na talaga ..i will try to get over it..its hurts syempre sa una..cope up with it..and look forward..:) (easy to say than done)

[geminigirl]

guys, has it ever occured to you na you fell in love with someone kahit alam mong impossible na maging kayo? assuming naging kayo, pero ang daming kalaban; distance...prioritie s...etc. sometimes i ask myself, is it really worth waiting for?

given na mahal mo yung tao; how long should you wait. should you not give up? and if ever you do, for what reason/s?

hehe, depressed nanaman ako. am so sick and tired. much as i'd like to ask her to stay...hindi naman pwede (on her part).

lecheng pag ibig talaga ito.

hi chris! couldn't help but wonder why this really happens. when you fall so deep, so true that it may seem that the world would end once you lose it.... had to be gone for awhile....but am back....unfortunatel y in the same old state.....of being in love.....

had to slow down a bit....had outgrown the past....i really did, scary though...for a few days had to look at the extremes of life, but will i ever find a way to moderate or otherwise take the edge off them?.....di ako pessimistic.....if i would stay i would.....if i love him....

so hopefully the crux of my habitual anguishes will ease off like a vine after a storm....maybe my love for him will make it possible.....even if he goes.....even he says goodbye.....

hello friend!!!!:)

[greatbarrier]

hi chris rock,

i don't know if you believe me, but i'm in the same boat as yours....maybe yours is intense than mine though....i always tell myself, patience is a virtue....good things come to those who wait!

but you're right! sometimes, i question my rationale..why do i still hope that the future will bring us something really good? is it really worth the wait? what is the guarantee that we will still end up together?

ang hirap! it gives me sleepless nights...not to mention unnecessary anxieties....

but then, i thought, we don't really have that much choice right now...he has to be there & i have to be here....we really need to sacrifice at least for now....

so u know what i did, i sent him a very long e-mail about my thoughts and sentiments...which include my doubts...everything. ..& he replied. well, at least, he assured me of how he really feels for me. but he knows too, that we can't hold on to what the future will bring....a lot of things will happen while we are apart.....so he told me that we just have to take things easily and work for the best...let the future decide things for us....

i just thought, he's right! we can not tell what will happen! so the question of whether to wait or not is really dependent on us! if u know pretty well how you really feel for each other, the intensity for that matter...then, maybe it's worth the wait! maybe, that's a guarantee somehow that the future will bring something.....& of course, you need to evaluate the situation from time to time...do u still feel the same for each other? is it dying down coz of distance? or does it get more intense as time passes?

i also realized, life is like that....it's not a bed of roses....it's a game...if we chose to play, we run the risk of loosing as much as winning.....if we chose otherwise, we won't loose but we won't win either! & there would always be a "what if"....

& i thought, i'd rather play it....at least, i have equal chances....

[mOtt_erU]

Hi Chris Rock...:)
Share ko lang sayo, alam mo before I`ve been thru that the same situation.
Though the feeling is mutual, eh quite impossible talaga para samen.
Siguro we`re not meant for each other..