Need to forget.....

[noycoco]

i fell in-love....for almost over a year. at first, hindi ko siya gusto. i find him mayabang, not my type, pero as time goes by. slowly i found myself liking him until it came to the point na i acknowledge na i like him talaga. pero i cant help it, di ko mapigilan ang feelings ko. i work with him so everyday i see him. until one day we both got drunk and siyempre when a person is drunk malakas ang loob niya so it slipped from my tongue, the truth came out, nasabi ko. pero talagang i let it come out lang kasi mabigat na talaga habang tinatago ko pero at the back of my mind half of me accepts the truth na talagang hanggang doon lang kasi di nga pwede, kasi we work together, bawal. when i told him nga my feelings for him sinabi ko na sana it will remain as a secret between the two of us because we both love our work. pero really, half of me wants to forget him, but because i see him everyday its kinda hard for me... should i forget him? im not really sure if i have to forget him....i need advice....if you think that i should forget him, considering my situation....how can i forget him?:confused:

[chubby_kulot]

hello noycoco :wavey:

forgetting someone is not easy to do mostly if the person involved is the one you love...ano ba talaga ang gusto mong gawin?ang kalimutan sya because you both are working in the same company..or because you wanted to forget him also the feelings you have for him? mas mahirap kalabanin ang nararamdaman ng puso kesa sa isinisigaw ng isipan... ano ba naging reaksyon nya nung nasabi mo na "gusto mo sya"...?nagulat ba sya..may nasabi ba siya o bigla mo kasing sinabi na "sana it will remain as a secret between the two of us because we both love our work"...baka naman same feeling kayo pero pinangunahan mo na sya agad.. :jiggy:
dahil nga sa nasabi mo na sa kanya un feelings mo... just try to be professional everytime na magkasama kayo sa work..kung nasa labas naman just enjoy the company of each other..wag mong lagyan ng imaginary wall ang pagitan nyo ng dahil lang sa gusto mo syang kalimutan...bago mo sya magawang kalimutan kung un talaga ang gusto mo ..mas magandang unahin mong burahin ang feelings mo para sa kanya.. :)

mas madaling kalimutan ang isang tao kung di mo ito nakikita sa araw araw na pamumuhay mo..idagdag pa na di mo sya iniisip... :king: pero di pwede ito sau dahil sa hindi naman pwedeng umalis ka ng company nyo diba... :hihi:

[Ashley]

Mahirap
Nakakailang
and hindi madaling gawin...
Two things lang yan, it's
either you hate or you love...
Kung talagang hindi puede
that's the part you have to
be strong.... and do not
loose control.
This is also the part that you will
be needing your friends help and
support, as in talagang moral
support... But, in the end...
the last say is yours.

[noycoco]

salamat sa mga payo ninyo....pero this morning i decided na kalimutan na siya. i need to forget him.kailangan.yan ang dapat kong gawin.hindi ko alam kung bakit ko napag desisyunan yan pero yan ang pumasok sa utak ko. now, theproblem is, kaya ko ba?kaya　ko siguro. bukas susubukan ko. ...:O

[greatbarrier]

Hi noycoco!

of course you can do it! nothing is difficult if you'll have the willpower to do it! mind over matter!

it's easier said than done though! kasi nga, emotions are involved! but sabi nga nila, God put the brain above the heart so that it can govern the heart whenever necessary....

do u read harry potter? dumbledore said to harry something like this....there is no sense living in fantasies....one must understand why things happen coz, only with understanding will there be acceptance, and with acceptance will there be letting go....

i once said to a friend who also suffered from heartache...we shouldn't waste time thinking why it happened, what went wrong, or worst, what could have we done to prevent that to happen. we wouldn't know, maybe what happened would be a blessing in disguise.....always remember, when one door closes on you, another door is waiting to be opened.

so we should not dawdle on it. yes, it's pretty difficult. but the more we let it linger, the more it becomes painful, & the more will it be difficult to move on.

just remember what henry ford said...."pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional"....

& also remember, diamonds are precious coz of the process it undertakes...the high pressure & temperature the carbon undertakes leading to the creation of diamond....prior to that process, diamond was just a carbon, similar to the element of a pencil lead....but after that rigorous process, the ordinary carbon becomes a precious gem....

so u you see, just like the diamond, a person, like YOU, is like a carbon, a pencil lead....but because of life's experiences, tests, dilemmas, one can become like a diamond....

[noycoco]

Hi noycoco!

of course you can do it! nothing is difficult if you'll have the willpower to do it! mind over matter!

it's easier said than done though! kasi nga, emotions are involved! but sabi nga nila, God put the brain above the heart so that it can govern the heart whenever necessary....

do u read harry potter? dumbledore said to harry something like this....there is no sense living in fantasies....one must understand why things happen coz, only with understanding will there be acceptance, and with acceptance will there be letting go....

i once said to a friend who also suffered from heartache...we shouldn't waste time thinking why it happened, what went wrong, or worst, what could have we done to prevent that to happen. we wouldn't know, maybe what happened would be a blessing in disguise.....always remember, when one door closes on you, another door is waiting to be opened.

so we should not dawdle on it. yes, it's pretty difficult. but the more we let it linger, the more it becomes painful, & the more will it be difficult to move on.

just remember what henry ford said...."pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional"....

& also remember, diamonds are precious coz of the process it undertakes...the high pressure & temperature the carbon undertakes leading to the creation of diamond....prior to that process, diamond was just a carbon, similar to the element of a pencil lead....but after that rigorous process, the ordinary carbon becomes a precious gem....

so u you see, just like the diamond, a person, like YOU, is like a carbon, a pencil lead....but because of life's experiences, tests, dilemmas, one can become like a diamond....


thanks greatbarrier.:) maraming salamat sa advice mo, feeling ko talaga diamond ako! parang maricel soriano ang dating!:p pero kidding aside, i am still trying to forget pero wala pa ding nagababago sa feelings ko. its really hard, siguro hindi ko talaga magagawang malimutan siya kung hindi ako magagalit sa kanya. you see everyday i see him kasi nga we work together. everyday hindi kami pwedeng hindi mag usap kasi kailangan sa work namin. kung kailangan akong makaramdam ng galit sa kanya e medyo impossible yata kasi hindi nga pwedeng hindi kami mag usap. sometimes, i think, na maybe i can forget him kung may makikilala akong iba...

[greatbarrier]

well, they say that the best medicine to heal a broken heart is another love! but that's difficult! what if it would take time before you meet that person! eh di ganun din katagal na parang laging byernes santo ang buhay mo! don't be! life is too short to be wasted! especially on things na wala na tayong magagawa but to let go!

i read a book! it's actually about adapting to change in a corporate set-up! but i think everything that is written there also applies to all changes that happen in our lives! kasi nga change is the only thing constant in this world! the title of the book is "who moved my cheese" by spencer bishop. the book was written allegorically. in a nutshell, the writer wants to send a message that people should be able to adapt to change, avoid dwelling on something that lost already.

yes, no words can nurse the pain that you're going through now! but don't forget that you have friends around like us here in tf to give you consolation. and here's something from ralph martson, to help you ease the devastation! it's quite long though!

"Thoughts to Reality
Imagine for a moment how it would be if every time you thought of something it would suddenly become real. If that were the case, upon what things would you focus your thoughts?

If you knew for certain that thinking would instantly make it so, how would that change the nature of your thoughts? Would you focus your thoughts on worry, frustration, anger and resentment, or would those thoughts be more directed toward the positive possibilities?

Of course, you know that your thoughts do not instantly create your reality. Yet those thoughts do indeed have a powerful influence on where your life leads. For your actions are certainly guided by your thoughts. And the actions you take do indeed have a major impact on your life and your world.

In fact, the thoughts with which you most consistently fill your mind do eventually become real. It just takes some time. So keep in mind what would happen if your thoughts were to suddenly become real. Because one day, they will be."

[ANGELIKA22]

i really need to forget him...before anything happens.
hindi aapoy ang isang bagay kung hindi sisindihan.

[docomo]

i really need to forget him...before anything happens.
hindi aapoy ang isang bagay kung hindi sisindihan.

.... if you feel that the relationship is toxic, why then make yourself sick .. let go of this person and make yourself healthy .. take care of yourself and not this person that is what you must do :)

[ANGELIKA22]

.... if you feel that the relationship is toxic, why then make yourself sick .. let go of this person and make yourself healthy .. take care of yourself and not this person that is what you must do :)thanks docomo san...maybe, i should have just maintained our friend-you-can-lean-on relationship..

[noycoco]

i really need to forget him...before anything happens.
hindi aapoy ang isang bagay kung hindi sisindihan.

pareho din siguro tayo ng nararamdaman. mahirap diba? friends kayo tapos suddenly awkward na kayo konti sa isat isa kasi nga nasabi mo na sa kanya.....mahirap! madaling sabihin na forget him pero sa totoo lang, mahirap!:O

[docomo]

@ noycoco

.. as i am sure you know, matters of the heart are complicated and there are no simple answers. reducing your situation to "should i or shouldn't i" scenario is neither fair to you nor to the person you are seeing. life isn't easy and neither is love. many times the best thing for you in the long run is the thing that you least want to do. it takes a lot of courage to accept the truth as opposed to passing it over in favor of what will you give you a magical moment in the now.
.. one of the things that turns us crazy sometime is that we want all the answers,but you can only really learn the answers for yourself overtime .. :)

[noycoco]

@ noycoco

.. as i am sure you know, matters of the heart are complicated and there are no simple answers. reducing your situation to "should i or shouldn't i" scenario is neither fair to you nor to the person you are seeing. life isn't easy and neither is love. many times the best thing for you in the long run is the thing that you least want to do. it takes a lot of courage to accept the truth as opposed to passing it over in favor of what will you give you a magical moment in the now.
.. one of the things that turns us crazy sometime is that we want all the answers,but you can only really learn the answers for yourself overtime .. :)


thanks for the advice.....the latest, may gf na siyang pinakilala sa trabaho namin. kakilala ko yung girl, nakakabigla pero siguro yun na ang the best para lumayo na din ang feelings ko for him. i tried so hard na huwag maging "transparent" kung anuman ang nararamdaman ko nung mga oras na yon. i talked to the girl, parang walang sakit, but actually it really hurts....grabe! tapos nagkaroon ng time na kaming dalawa lang nung guy, biniro ko siya...sabi ko shiawaze naman pala siya....sabi niya di daw....honto ni hindi daw....para tuloy pinapaasa niya ako...yun ang sa tingin ko lang...pero sana hindi.....i told him dapat maging kuntento na siya kung ano ang meron...dapat maging masaya siya....kung ano pa ang mga susunod na mangyayari e hindi ko pa alam....:O

[chris_rock]

you would only feel na 'pinapaasa niya ako' if and only if you're feelings for him are still that strong.

ask yourself, 'do i want to forget him by choice...or out of necessity?'

at the end of the day, never consider it your loss. you deserve someone better.

so cheer up :)

[noycoco]

you would only feel na 'pinapaasa niya ako' if and only if you're feelings for him are still that strong.

ask yourself, 'do i want to forget him by choice...or out of necessity?'

at the end of the day, never consider it your loss. you deserve someone better.

so cheer up :)

thanks for the positive advices!!!!luv yah!!! wala pang latest.....ill let you know:)

[mOtt_erU]

hi noycoco:)

uhmmm for me Sundin mo what your heart feels...kung hindi mo kayang agad agad makalimot , eh di wag...alam mo mahirap nga kase everyday kayo magkasama sa work..pero alam mo I`ve been through that before...it feels good din naman ha na may inspiration ka sa work at kasama mo pa...parang everyday exciting ..:)
Godbless you

[noycoco]

hanggang sa ngayon ganon pa din ang feelings.....pero talagang controlled ko na. hanggang trabaho na lang ang samahan. hindi na kami nagsasamang gumimik. pero talagang kontrolado ko na ang sarili ko...wala na sa peak ang feelings ko....pero gusto ko pa din siya....:)

[greatbarrier]

hi noycoco!

how r u na po?! hope you're doing fine na talaga! glad to hear that you're moving on! ganyan talaga....it goes thru the process.... but you will notice that the throbbing becomes less and less as days go by.... so the cliche goes... time heals all wounds!

but after that, you will come out a better person....a winner! coz you managed to move on and face tomorrow with a smile! :)

[dr_knockers]

Remember that Love always has been and always will be a mystery. clich'e as it may sound and yet very true.

Just be glad, at least once in your lifetime it came to live and gave happy moments to your life. :)

[noycoco]

hi noycoco!

how r u na po?! hope you're doing fine na talaga! glad to hear that you're moving on! ganyan talaga....it goes thru the process.... but you will notice that the throbbing becomes less and less as days go by.... so the cliche goes... time heals all wounds!

but after that, you will come out a better person....a winner! coz you managed to move on and face tomorrow with a smile! :)

thankyou sa support talaga ha, salamat!

[noycoco]

Remember that Love always has been and always will be a mystery. clich'e as it may sound and yet very true.

Just be glad, at least once in your lifetime it came to live and gave happy moments to your life. :)
salamat sa pampalakas ng loob.....:)

[Isuy]

....i need advice....if you think that i should forget him, considering my situation....how can i forget him?:confused:

just think of me and not him.. you will easily forget him for sure.. *wink* ;) :p

[noycoco]

just think of me and not him.. you will easily forget him for sure.. *wink* ;) :p

oo no! iniisip na nga kita!:p

[greatbarrier]

when i opened this thread the first time, it reminded me of that same chapter.... when everything was nothing but darkness.... when no amount of consolation would alleviate the throbbing..... when all you wanted to do was to be alone....

god is indeed great to make a way when there seems to be no way..... from out of nowhere came a soul who made you realize you're not alone in such misery.... a soul who's kind enough to offer comforting words.... a soul who made you realize how stupid to waste your time when it's not all worth it..... thanks to you....

& so i did the same to noycoco.... kahit pano... :)

[Isuy]

when i opened this thread the first time, it reminded me of that same chapter.... when everything was nothing but darkness.... when no amount of consolation would alleviate the throbbing..... when all you wanted to do was to be alone....

god is indeed great to make a way when there seems to be no way..... from out of nowhere came a soul who made you realize you're not alone in such misery.... a soul who's kind enough to offer comforting words.... a soul who made you realize how stupid to waste your time when it's not all worth it..... thanks to you....

& so i did the same to noycoco.... kahit pano... :)

pag may mga ganyan kayong problema.. Ako lang laging isipin nyo.. Im sure makaka-sruvive kayo kagad.. promise... ;) :D

[beibie_ash]

pag may mga ganyan kayong problema.. Ako lang laging isipin nyo.. Im sure makaka-sruvive kayo kagad.. promise... ;) :D

Isuy san talaga oh.. tunay na maasahan..:lol:
so panu yan, may problema din akoh.. maaari mo ba akong tulungan?:D

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to nycoco...

kung saan ka masaya.. yun ang gawin moh.. remember,, nasa huli ang pagsisi.. if forgetting him will make you satisfy your feelings, well be it.. but if not, think many times as you can..:bonk:

[japina]

in my opinyon walang makakasagot ng tanong mo kung hindi ang sarili mo lang, kasi ikaw yun nakakaramdam. at sa mga sitwasyon na ganyan ,pag may advice na iwasan parang hindi mo masunod kasi hindi mo kaya. kung talagang mas mahalaga ang work nyo maganda na siguro pigilan mo na lang better of as friends. kasi pag secret lang ang relationship remember walang sekreto na hindi nabubunyag diba:D kung talagang gusto mo talaga sya. you have to sacrifice (resign) sa work mo para masunod yun feelings mo para sa kanya. naku bakit nga ba pag dating sa love may mga hadlang:confused: pero siguro natural lang yan. think many times then when you finally decided go for it!!! goodluck!! and may the force be with you:thumb:

[Isuy]

Isuy san talaga oh.. tunay na maasahan..:lol:
so panu yan, may problema din akoh.. maaari mo ba akong tulungan?:D


Ano bang problema mo Beibie.. lenya.. may Babes na ako my Beibei pa.. dumarami naaa... hehehe :D

[lab_u_babes]

good day po to all TF freinds.
pasensya na po at makikisali ako dito sa thread ni noycoco san.

im in the same stituation too.
i really need an advice too.
actually i read this today and kahapon lang po naganap ang 'nayami' ko.

This is my story:
may bf po ako na nasa pinas.we're having a relation for 8yrs.
binata sya and im married here (tokyo) w/ 2 baby angels.
sya ang 1st bf ko and it was 18yrs ago.
nag kahiwalay kami bcoz i need to live here in tokyo.
so, hangang sa dito na po ako nag ka-asawa at nag ka-anak.
den we met again pagka panganak ko sa 1st baby ko.
nung umuwi kami sa pinas... 9yrs ago.
simula nun we started again, i find my self still in-love w/ him.
at sa hindi inaasahan, nag ka-anak ulit ako dito coz may asawa naman ako until now.
and he is still waitng for me..
mahal ko sya pero hindi ko maiwanan ang mga anak ko at hindi ko mahiwalayan ang asawa ko coz we're having our own com here in tokyo.
malaki na rin ang pinag hirapan ko dito sa com namin.
and 1 very important reason: ayokong maransan ng mga angels ko ang broken family like what i experienced.nung bata pa ako wla akong alam na hihiwalay na pala kami sa tatay ko kaya kami pupunta dito sa japan. at sonomama dito na mamumuhay. i sacrificed a lot..

den..laltely nga, pinipilit ko ang sarili kong kalimutan na lang sya.
almost 2yrs na akong hindi umuuwi ng pinas. samantala eversince na maging kami..once or twice a year i go there for him. pinag isipan din namin pumunta na lang sya dito at ng malaman din namin kung kami nga ay para sa isa't isa. but as we know hindi ganun kadali.

at kahapon nga...
after a few weeks w/no contact, nag usap kami.
he answered me: "i wont say goodbye but rather..until then"
tama po ba ang pag kakaintindi ko?
he'll still waiting for me?
but maybe, yun din po siguro ang gusto ko.
im still in love w/HIM...i want to be w/HIM for rest of my life.
do i need to divorce my hubby?
ilang beses ko na rin pong tinangkang mawala na lang sa mundo
at baka sa kabilang buhay sya na ang kapiling ko...
all my freinds, family,relatives knew about us.
at syempre hindi rin naman manhid ang hubby ko.
but he dont speak about it.

sorriy po...napahaba ang kwento ko but i really need your advices.
@ noycoco san...hontoni gomenasai. ginamit ko ang thread mo."pansensya na po"
hindi ko po na-open ang problema ko but u gave me way.thank you and sorry again.
salamat po in advance sa lahat.

god bless

[Isuy]

good day po to all TF freinds.
pasensya na po at makikisali ako dito sa thread ni noycoco san.

im in the same stituation too.
i really need an advice too.
actually i read this today and kahapon lang po naganap ang 'nayami' ko.

This is my story:
may bf po ako na nasa pinas.we're having a relation for 8yrs.
binata sya and im married here (tokyo) w/ 2 baby angels.
sya ang 1st bf ko and it was 18yrs ago.
nag kahiwalay kami bcoz i need to live here in tokyo.
so, hangang sa dito na po ako nag ka-asawa at nag ka-anak.
den we met again pagka panganak ko sa 1st baby ko.
nung umuwi kami sa pinas... 9yrs ago.
simula nun we started again, i find my self still in-love w/ him.
at sa hindi inaasahan, nag ka-anak ulit ako dito coz may asawa naman ako until now.
and he is still waitng for me..
mahal ko sya pero hindi ko maiwanan ang mga anak ko at hindi ko mahiwalayan ang asawa ko coz we're having our own com here in tokyo.
malaki na rin ang pinag hirapan ko dito sa com namin.
and 1 very important reason: ayokong maransan ng mga angels ko ang broken family like what i experienced.nung bata pa ako wla akong alam na hihiwalay na pala kami sa tatay ko kaya kami pupunta dito sa japan. at sonomama dito na mamumuhay. i sacrificed a lot..

den..laltely nga, pinipilit ko ang sarili kong kalimutan na lang sya.
almost 2yrs na akong hindi umuuwi ng pinas. samantala eversince na maging kami..once or twice a year i go there for him. pinag isipan din namin pumunta na lang sya dito at ng malaman din namin kung kami nga ay para sa isa't isa. but as we know hindi ganun kadali.

at kahapon nga...
after a few weeks w/no contact, nag usap kami.
he answered me: "i wont say goodbye but rather..until then"
tama po ba ang pag kakaintindi ko?
he'll still waiting for me?
but maybe, yun din po siguro ang gusto ko.
im still in love w/HIM...i want to be w/HIM for rest of my life.
do i need to divorce my hubby?
ilang beses ko na rin pong tinangkang mawala na lang sa mundo
at baka sa kabilang buhay sya na ang kapiling ko...
all my freinds, family,relatives knew about us.
at syempre hindi rin naman manhid ang hubby ko.
but he dont speak about it.

sorriy po...napahaba ang kwento ko but i really need your advices.
@ noycoco san...hontoni gomenasai. ginamit ko ang thread mo."pansensya na po"
hindi ko po na-open ang problema ko but u gave me way.thank you and sorry again.
salamat po in advance sa lahat.

god bless

tsk tsk tsk.. is lang solusyon sa mga problema nyo.. ako na lang isipin nyo... promise di talaga kayo magsi-sisi..

:D

[liong]

good day po to all TF freinds.
pasensya na po at makikisali ako dito sa thread ni noycoco san.

im in the same stituation too.
i really need an advice too.
actually i read this today and kahapon lang po naganap ang 'nayami' ko.

This is my story:
may bf po ako na nasa pinas.we're having a relation for 8yrs.
binata sya and im married here (tokyo) w/ 2 baby angels.
sya ang 1st bf ko and it was 18yrs ago.
nag kahiwalay kami bcoz i need to live here in tokyo.
so, hangang sa dito na po ako nag ka-asawa at nag ka-anak.
den we met again pagka panganak ko sa 1st baby ko.
nung umuwi kami sa pinas... 9yrs ago.
simula nun we started again, i find my self still in-love w/ him.
at sa hindi inaasahan, nag ka-anak ulit ako dito coz may asawa naman ako until now.
and he is still waitng for me..
mahal ko sya pero hindi ko maiwanan ang mga anak ko at hindi ko mahiwalayan ang asawa ko coz we're having our own com here in tokyo.
malaki na rin ang pinag hirapan ko dito sa com namin.
and 1 very important reason: ayokong maransan ng mga angels ko ang broken family like what i experienced.nung bata pa ako wla akong alam na hihiwalay na pala kami sa tatay ko kaya kami pupunta dito sa japan. at sonomama dito na mamumuhay. i sacrificed a lot..

den..laltely nga, pinipilit ko ang sarili kong kalimutan na lang sya.
almost 2yrs na akong hindi umuuwi ng pinas. samantala eversince na maging kami..once or twice a year i go there for him. pinag isipan din namin pumunta na lang sya dito at ng malaman din namin kung kami nga ay para sa isa't isa. but as we know hindi ganun kadali.

at kahapon nga...
after a few weeks w/no contact, nag usap kami.
he answered me: "i wont say goodbye but rather..until then"
tama po ba ang pag kakaintindi ko?
he'll still waiting for me?
but maybe, yun din po siguro ang gusto ko.
im still in love w/HIM...i want to be w/HIM for rest of my life.
do i need to divorce my hubby?
ilang beses ko na rin pong tinangkang mawala na lang sa mundo
at baka sa kabilang buhay sya na ang kapiling ko...
all my freinds, family,relatives knew about us.
at syempre hindi rin naman manhid ang hubby ko.
but he dont speak about it.

sorriy po...napahaba ang kwento ko but i really need your advices.
@ noycoco san...hontoni gomenasai. ginamit ko ang thread mo."pansensya na po"
hindi ko po na-open ang problema ko but u gave me way.thank you and sorry again.
salamat po in advance sa lahat.

god bless


OK LOVE STORY MO LAB U BABES!!! the best yan....pero mahirap ata magdesisyon jan...... parang gusto ko rin maranasan yan ah......TSK!!! TSK!!!!:p wait mom lang ating mga dakilang mangiibig ng tf!! marami jang magpapayo syo!!!:D :p

kung anu man ang kalalabasan ng love story mo sana wag kang magdalawang isip na ipost sa tf........ aabangan ko iyan.......ANO KAYA ANG SUSUNOD NA KABANATA????:D

PIS TYO HA!!:D

[beibie_ash]

Ano bang problema mo Beibie.. lenya.. may Babes na ako my Beibei pa.. dumarami naaa... hehehe :D

pwedeng dumagdag??:D sawi din akoh sa pag-ibig eh :weep:

[noycoco]

OK! gawin na natin itong thread ko na "thread ng mga sawi sa pag-ibig"! Lahat ng mga nasawi na minsan sa pag-ibig dito ninyo ibuhos.....mapag-usapan natin, masakit pero minsan masarap balik-balikan...

[noycoco]

good day po to all TF freinds.
pasensya na po at makikisali ako dito sa thread ni noycoco san.

im in the same stituation too.
i really need an advice too.
actually i read this today and kahapon lang po naganap ang 'nayami' ko.

This is my story:
may bf po ako na nasa pinas.we're having a relation for 8yrs.
binata sya and im married here (tokyo) w/ 2 baby angels.
sya ang 1st bf ko and it was 18yrs ago.
nag kahiwalay kami bcoz i need to live here in tokyo.
so, hangang sa dito na po ako nag ka-asawa at nag ka-anak.
den we met again pagka panganak ko sa 1st baby ko.
nung umuwi kami sa pinas... 9yrs ago.
simula nun we started again, i find my self still in-love w/ him.
at sa hindi inaasahan, nag ka-anak ulit ako dito coz may asawa naman ako until now.
and he is still waitng for me..
mahal ko sya pero hindi ko maiwanan ang mga anak ko at hindi ko mahiwalayan ang asawa ko coz we're having our own com here in tokyo.
malaki na rin ang pinag hirapan ko dito sa com namin.
and 1 very important reason: ayokong maransan ng mga angels ko ang broken family like what i experienced.nung bata pa ako wla akong alam na hihiwalay na pala kami sa tatay ko kaya kami pupunta dito sa japan. at sonomama dito na mamumuhay. i sacrificed a lot..

den..laltely nga, pinipilit ko ang sarili kong kalimutan na lang sya.
almost 2yrs na akong hindi umuuwi ng pinas. samantala eversince na maging kami..once or twice a year i go there for him. pinag isipan din namin pumunta na lang sya dito at ng malaman din namin kung kami nga ay para sa isa't isa. but as we know hindi ganun kadali.

at kahapon nga...
after a few weeks w/no contact, nag usap kami.
he answered me: "i wont say goodbye but rather..until then"
tama po ba ang pag kakaintindi ko?
he'll still waiting for me?
but maybe, yun din po siguro ang gusto ko.
im still in love w/HIM...i want to be w/HIM for rest of my life.
do i need to divorce my hubby?
ilang beses ko na rin pong tinangkang mawala na lang sa mundo
at baka sa kabilang buhay sya na ang kapiling ko...
all my freinds, family,relatives knew about us.
at syempre hindi rin naman manhid ang hubby ko.
but he dont speak about it.

sorriy po...napahaba ang kwento ko but i really need your advices.
@ noycoco san...hontoni gomenasai. ginamit ko ang thread mo."pansensya na po"
hindi ko po na-open ang problema ko but u gave me way.thank you and sorry again.
salamat po in advance sa lahat.

god bless

ok lang na dito ka naghinga ng problema mo sa thread na ito....gusto kitang payuhan pero parang napakahirap ng situwasyon mo. unang-una, gusto kong hangaan ang mister mo dahil napakabait niya at kahit na sa palagay mo na meron siyang alam sa mga nangyayari e nagagawa niyang magsawalang-kibo nalang, saludo ako sa kanya.
yung bf mo ng 8 yrs sa pinas,mabait din ba siya? faithful kaya siya? na kahit nandito ka at hindi kayo nagkikita ng matagal na panahon e makasisiguro ka kayang wala siyang iba?kartapat-dapat ba siya sa iyong pagmamahal at sa sakripisyong gagawin mo sa iyong pamilya kung saka-sakali?ano ba ang puwede kong sabihin.....hindi ka ba talaga maligaya ngayon sa piling ng asawa mo at mga anak? talagang ang kaligayahan mo ba ay ang makasama ang iyong bf? sabi mo ayaw mong maranasan ang naging experience mo sa iyong pamilya, may naging epekto ba ito sa iyo? nakabawas ba sa iyong pagkatao ang mga nangyari? sa tingin ko naman kahit nangyari iyon dati sa iyong pamilya e lumaki ka naman na isang mabuting anak sa iyong mga magulang....kaya sa tingin ko na kung sakaling makipaghiwalay ka sa iyong mister e magagawang maintindihan din ng mga anak mo ang mga bagay na iyon sa pagdating ng takdang oras. huwag ka lang magkukulang sa kanila.
sa mga naitanong ko sa iyo sana kahit konti e narealize mo kung ano talaga ang gusto mo.
hindi sa lahat ng oras ay dapat ang kaligayahan ng sarili ang palaging susundin.....may nanghula sa akin kahapon, sabi niya its about time daw na sa buhay ko ay pairalin ko ang utak ko at hindi palagi ang puso....ito din nagin palaisipan sa akin, dapat ko ba itong sundin o hindi?.....

[beibie_ash]

to LAB_u_BABES...

masasabi koh........
grabeh.. ang hirap ng situation nyo poh.. pero its good to hear poh fr. u na you were thinking about your children regarding to your situation.. dahil pag sinunod nyo poh ang nararamdaman nyo, sila ang unang una na maapektuhan.. better think of it.. nasa sa pa rin ang desisYon...

[lab_u_babes]

Maraming salamat po...sa mga replies nyo.
@ noycoco san,beibie san, liong san,isuy san:wink:
ok na po ako ngayon unlike nung mga nakaraan araw..

Tama po kayo, maraming choices but hindi maiiwasan ang may masasaktan,
when i decide.
kaya nga po hanngang ngayon hindi ako makapag decision.

sure naman po ako sa bf ko na wala sya iba.. coz eversince we know our both stituation
& status.
usapan naman namin na if ever he met someone.ako ang unang-una sasabihan nya.
and kahit ganito ako..i never tell i lie to him and he didi too.
si hubby ko naman, simula nung makasama ko sya almost everyday magkasama kami.
fr bahay to office or shop...kaya rin madalas kaming magkasalubong.
but close pa rin naman kami after all.

kung hindi nga lang siguro dahil sa mga angels ko at future nila.
wala sana me pinoproblema about love life ko.

pasensya na po again..eto na naman ako.
and "honto ni domo arigato" sukoshi raku ni narimashita.
dewa mata...if ever na may pag babago, i'll tell you again.

god bless

[noycoco]

mabuti naman at ok ka na ngayon....pagpatuloy mo lang iyan. wag masyadong mag iisip...kapag medyo nalungkto ka na naman, bumalik ka lang dito....ihinga ang sama ngloob, para lumuwag ulit ang pakiramdam mo.

[beibie_ash]

mabuti naman at ok ka na ngayon....pagpatuloy mo lang iyan. wag masyadong mag iisip...kapag medyo nalungkto ka na naman, bumalik ka lang dito....ihinga ang sama ngloob, para lumuwag ulit ang pakiramdam mo.

kaw nman poh nycoco, oK ka na ba? ahehehe.. lumuwag na din ba pakiramdam moh?

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@LAB U BABES.. gLad to hear from you na ok ka na poh.. its our pleasure na nakatulong kmi :D ...

[noycoco]

kaw nman poh nycoco, oK ka na ba? ahehehe.. lumuwag na din ba pakiramdam moh?

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@LAB U BABES.. gLad to hear from you na ok ka na poh.. its our pleasure na nakatulong kmi :D ...

med yo maluwag kesa sa dati.....pero ganon pa din, gusto ko pa din sya.....

[beibie_ash]

med yo maluwag kesa sa dati.....pero ganon pa din, gusto ko pa din sya.....

glad to hear that.. hmm gusto mo pa rin sya? well gawin moh poh kung ano nararapat.. ahehe.. kung ano makapagpapaligaya sayo.. bastah post mo poh kung ano development sa iyong lablayf.. :D

[love0308]

why need to forget him?masarap umibig:) kung wala namang sabit ok lang di ba. you said bawal sa work eh di lihim nyo :D kung kayo darating ang right time for both of you, just be in love sarap mag work pag may inspiration di ba?:rolleyes: